I'll start off by saying that I find a deep connection between chastity/orgasm control and devotion. A sub who is fully willing to devote himself to the service of a domme, physically putting the needs of his domme above his own by locking himself in a cage is a selfless way to show his reverence and commitment. I want you to be desperate. I want you to say you'll do anything, and yet, I want to feel it in my bones that you wouldn't dare touch yourself without my permission. That you would feel shame to act without purpose. And your purpose is to follow my command. Not only because you want to worship me physically, but because you want to honor me with your word. Your submission is not only physical but mental and emotional. Which leads me to my biggest interest, which is MESM (mental/emotional sadomasochism). If you are someone attached to specific kinks, we're probably not a good fit. I would recommend you check out my post on what I value in a sub in addition to this ad if you want to stand out (pinned on my profile).

I've always enjoyed the concept of chastity because it makes orgasm control very REAL since it is physical, it is uncomfortable and constant. I want you to suffer for me, but above that, to take pride in yourself in knowing that you're an obedient puppy. To believe that I deserve the best... and because when I'm with you, you feel in your bones that YOU'RE MINE. Gosh, look at me getting all romantic, haha.

About Me: I'm 35, cis female, polyam and I'm active in my local fet community. I'm not a pro and I don't require a tribute, but I will let you take me out to dinner. It is not my intention or desire to make you feel small so that I can be superior. Submission is powerful and earned, I'll happily build that safety and trust with you so that you surrender knowing you're appreciated exactly as you are. I believe it's a symbiotic relationship that works best when two people are aligned in how they like to give and receive pleasure. And because I'm starting out asking for chastity then you should believe, just as I do, that orgasm isn't what I'm talking about. Reaching orgasm is the end of the pleasure. You're here, hopefully, for the journey.

Anyway, I don't want to get too philosophical but hopefully you're getting a sense that I'm a slightly different type of domme. My preferred title is Goddess and through chastity, I hope to explore MESM and deification (being treated as a deity). I obviously have a long kink list, but I would prefer to connect first on ideology and personality before moving on to kinks.

If that resonated with you then here's a few things that are absolutely required from you:
- Between 24-38 years old, masc presenting
- Own a chastity cage... or 2 ;P
- Local-ish to Orange County/LA/SD. I'm not interested in online only dynamics as I want to be your key holder and I wouldn't be comfortable with it being long distance.
- I'm open to young/inexperienced subs, but you should at the very least be able to sleep in your cage since I would like our first training exercise to be getting you through October mostly being locked.
- Have the ability to communicate clearly, openly and honestly
- Be PATIENT, safe, sane and stable. No incessant daily texting, crazy exes, unemployed or weird living situations.
- Be willing to verify (I can too, and there's pics and audio on my page as well as my fet linked)
- No cheaters or people whose partners don't know they're submissive
- If we've connected before and it didn't work out, there's probably a reason for that so I prefer not to travel old roads.
- Able to handle a little bit of pain like biting, scratching, slapping (soft subs haven't been a fit)

If you think we might connect well, please include in your message your age, what part of SoCal you're in, your hard limits, the longest you've been in chastity and answer this question: what is the quality you most admire in a dominant woman?