What I am trying to find

I'm a sub-leaning switch, and I would like to find a long-term, slowly evolving relationship with either a dominant or dom-leaning switch Lady to explore mutual interests and kinks. I don't want things to be focused on kink only. I would like to be able to communicate quite a lot (of course, without disrupting work or any important affairs) - about mundane topics, about interests, about kinks too. I'm ready to take things slow, and willing to put in the time and attention for the right person.

Your age - I am flexible, but I suppose something like 25-47 would be appropriate.

Your race, skin color, your religion - anything goes, no prejudices from my side.

Your looks - please be height-weight proportionate (HWP). Bonus points for fit or athletic build. Appearances certainly do not define a personality, but they still matter, and they also tell of self-discipline and life-style habits in a certain way.

General info about myself

My work is constantly full with being in control, being the boss, making the decisions for other people and bearing the responsibility for those decisions. I suppose this is the main reason that explains how over years I've developed an interest in letting go off the reins, in being told what to do by a lady and in seeking comfort under her heels.

My appearances: I'm 180cm/6' tall. Brown eyes. Short, army-style cut brunette. No facial hair. I'm 95kg / 209 pounds heavy. Athletic build.

Education: I am a PhD in computer sciences, but for more than a decade I have been focused in managerial work, and thus there'd been also quite some education and studies in that area too. And it keeps on going - I always keep learning something. This explains also why I'm a sapiosexual - I am attracted to smart and witty people, who stay open-minded and keep learning too.

Relationship status: I don't want to hide that and come out as a nasty surprise later - I'm married in a dead-bedroom marriage with no sex for the last 4 years. It's a friend-zone kind of relationship, and neither of us wants to fix that. You can rest assured you will not be ruining anything by establishing contact with me.

Communication: English / Ukrainian. Russian is also possible, but I would rather avoid that language for the obvious reasons. Primary means of communication: start out in chat over here, and then move on to one of the messengers (e.g. Telegram).

My interests

I'm a guy who really appreciates sports and staying fit. Regardless of how exhausted I come out of work, in the evenings I typically workout 3 times per week, with either hitting the gym or swimming laps in the pool. I also love hiking - it's not untypical for me to take a 5-8km hike on a weekend.

I'm somewhat of a bookworm. My book collection is growing somewhat faster, than I'm able to read them. I hope that talking about some of the interesting readings will also be a thing for us.

Also in my free time I love gaming - either on my PC or PS5. If we could play together with you - that would be nice bonus. On top of video-gaming hobby I do have quite a collection of table-top games that I love to enjoy with my friends once in a while.

Last but not least, I have a life-long hobby of LARPing and medieval armored combat. I have my own set of armor, costumes and quite some photo-collection to reminisce upon from time to time. For the last year there wasn't any LARPing or festivities because of war in my country, so I miss that hobby very much.

Kinks

As a sub-leaning switch I'm about 70% submissive, 20% vanilla, 10% Dom. I'm very interested in exploring my submissive side with the right lady. I don't mind dabbling in the opposite from time to time too, but will not push for it unless it would be something we'd both want.

Top of mind kinks that I would love to make you happy with: gentle female domination, orgasm control and training, tease and denial, JOI, vocal play and mild verbal (loving, caring) humiliation, worship, porn control. I will blush like a girl if you instruct me to wear panties from time to time. I have a fetish for manicure, pedicure and pretty feet, and for all kinds of high heels and nylon. And despite being an alpha-male at work, I love cuddles, aftercare and embraces.

If we establish trustful connection, I might be open to try out ruined orgasms, CEI, and might even consider trying chastity for for you. Overall I believe any kind of topics can be brought up for discussion as long as there's trust and mutual support as a foundation of the relationship.

Hard limits/taboos: publicity, 3rd persons or any disclosure of personal information (works both ways ofc). Disrespect to personality, abuse, uninvited degradation, cuckolding. Anything that is non hygienic. Blood/electricity/scat/vomit.

Absolutely no findom, no tributes. I'm looking for a relationship - not a paid kink dispenser.

It's fine if you're married or have a stable partner, and I will totally respect & accept that you have sex activities with that person. However my character/nature will not allow me to accept presence of any additional individuals. So if you want to have more/poly, I am not the right person for you. I want to dedicate myself to one person, and I'm looking for that person to reciprocate.

Thank you for reading this far. It really came out much longer than I expected it to be. If this got you interested and you would like to get to know me, send me a message and please start it with your favorite ways to unwind and rest. I don't expect us to exchange face-photos on day 1, but shortly after we have established initial connection I will be able to verify myself, and will expect that you do the same.