I tried to throw all the important keywords into the title but I will make this next part quick in order to avoid wasting anyone's time as I've read this sub's materials like (1), (2), (3) and (4).

NO MEN. Do not message me if you are a man!

I'm searching for...

• Fellow queer ciswoman who identifies as a Domme; some experience on your part is preferred. We can't be two bottoms just sitting here, now can we? /lh /j
• Someone who will treat me with respect and care; I'm not a kink dispenser and neither are Dommes for that matter. I want a Soft-Domme who is sweet, gentle, and patient. I am not looking for any kind of harshness to be involved, ever. I need to be able to trust you and I can't do that if you're hurtful or mean-spirited. I do not like humiliation, degradation, or being treated like dirt.
• Short term or Long Term is fine with me but be honest and upfront about what you want too; I'm exploring and I'm not 100% sure what I'm looking for. I honestly don't know what will work until I start to get into things. I'm also demi so that complicates things a bit.
• A person with strong morals and ethics (no racists, homophobes, or Republicans; you know the drill), it also helps if you're familiar with polyamory as I happen to be poly and married. My spouse will never be involved; there's more information below.
• An understanding person who knows what it's like to take that dive into F4F for the first time because I'm new to this, and I don't know what I'm doing. Communication is highly important to me and if you can't do that, then I will bow out. I do not want to be forced to "read your mind" or play any kind of mental gymnastics, my mental health is important to me too.
• The kind of domme who loves all body types since I'm between the sizes of 20-22 depending on the shop. It's important for me to be with someone who genuinely cares and will not treat me poorly based on my body type. If it matters, I am a WoC - light tan skin - 5'7" - brown hair and eyes. Will verify if you're willing to verify as well, but I do want to take things slow because education is important to me.
• I'm not sure if I can get past SFW photos because of the demi aspect, I don't mind chatting and connecting emotionally, but I don't know if I can feel comfortable showing myself in a NSFW/vulnerable way. I would never expect someone else to do anything they're uncomfortable with, so I hope we can care for one another.

Information about me...

• First thing's first: I'm married, poly, but my spouse will not be involved whatsoever. Not now, and not in the future. Spouse also knows that I am here and wishing to explore this side of me. I will not leave my spouse for anyone, don't even bother with trying to convince me otherwise, and I will not tolerate any disrespect thrown at my primary relationship.
  • I have cats, I love all kinds of animals, and I honestly prefer people who are pet lovers.
  • I'm shy and introverted, so I'm trying my best to be open and available here.
  • I love to make people smile and laugh! I believe I have a good sense of humor.
  • I've always been in a caretaker role, but I hate how I've always put that energy towards men. I want to give myself to someone who will appreciate me and treat me well.
  • I'd say I'm artistic in a few different ways and I would love to see your craft if you are an artist yourself!
• That aside, I am new to this and not only that, but I have not had a chance to pursue anything with a woman so I'm inexperienced in two departments. It's nerve-wracking to think about flirting with another woman since society has taught us how to serve and obey men, which is the narrative I wish to fight within my own mind. So yes, spouse is a man and no I have never been with a woman but I want to try kick-starting this very new, vulnerable journey for me.
• I would much prefer a ciswoman as my Domme (teacher? trainer? whichever sounds preferable from the start of things?) and that is not a knock on transwomen or anything, I can vibe with anyone to be honest! But ultimately, I would like my first experience to be with a ciswoman if possible. It is not about the person so much as it is about the penis situation, to be totally open about that, otherwise: transwomen are women and I'm not for anyone who believes otherwise.
• Please let me know some information about you when you message me and don't send me a message that's a one-liner. Don't treat me like I'm already your sub/student/whatever, I am not agreeing to anything until I learn more about you and what you're like as a Domme. I need you to put effort into your message just as I've put a lot of effort into writing all of this.
  • What is your name? Age? Gender? Pronouns? Timezone? (We'll see if a man skips all of this...)
    • My preferred age range for a Domme or mentor would be 25-45.
  • How long have you been participating in this community? How about being a Domme?
  • Do you have anything that I could read to learn more about you? (Domme ad or otherwise.)
  • What are your hobbies? Anything you'd like to get into together?
  • Anything you'd like to know about me that wasn't mentioned here?
  • (NSFW)
    • My Kinks: Roleplay, Costumes ( stockings, heels, lingerie), Clothed sex, Breast/nipple worship (Honestly? Women are hot and I love a powerful woman who knows how to dress!)
    • My hard limits: TPE, pain, blackmail, public anything, humiliation, degradation, blood, fisting, watersports, anal, scat, diapers, age play, pet play, CNC and anything illegal.
    • I am willing to work alongside another sub/switch or pairing with another D/s! If they match with everything I've mentioned here, then I could try things with them if you're into that. (No men.)

I will be crystal clear about this last part:

I do NOT want to see a single man in my inbox. Respect this.