I have NO interest in online play.
I don't answer lazy, generic messages or messages from people I don't know what they look like. Attraction is essential and I have to know if you are my type physically, before engaging in a conversation with you and, to be quite blunt, nothing substitutes a cute face for me. I block way more people than I answer: if you talk to me without showing your face, you are not respecting my limits since the very beginning and I am not interested. I am mostly attracted to White and Asian people.
Before messaging me, read my post fully (also check my whole profile on Fetlife as Volutopia) and, if you decide to message me, let me know why you think we'd be a match in a relationship and what values and hobbies we share.
I am from Brazil and I currently live in half the year in Portugal, half in Goiânia - Goiás. I am currently in Goiás, Brazil and will be back in Lisbon in Ocotober 4.
I am anti-capitalist, anti-colonialism and anti-imperialism. I am vegan, a progressive, a feminist, a nerd who loves being at home watching movies (but who does not like Star Wars or Lord of the Rings haha), videos, series (currently watching What we do in the shadows and loving it), reading, playing videogames, doing jigsaw puzzles, listening to audiobooks/podcasts, stories, rock/metal (some of my the bands I like are: She Wants Revenge, After Forever, HIM, Volbeat, Skindred, etc. I love going to concerts, meeting up with friends to play boardgames, watching stand-up comedy, dancing (retro music and bellydance), playing boardgames and being in nature/in the water. I am interested in sustainability, healthy eating and healthy lifestyle in general. My favorite food is pamonha, second place is Green Thai Curry.
An example of an ideal quality time with my sub would be to have him or her gently run their fingers on my back while I read some creepy story to the both of us. I am a horror fan!
Respect is the basis of an FLR and you *always* have to express yourself with ultimate respect towards me, which means, besides kissing the floor I walk on, being a feminist and a supporter of immigrants' rights and a world with no borders!
I am looking for something serious that will, hopefully, last a lifetime. Something that will evolve to living together and adopting cats an perhaps a dog and rabbit too :). If you need to have kids, I am not the right person for you. The dream would be to live a kinky and loving life, where we grow some organic plants together, have cozy moments watching horror movies under the blankets and, are honest at all times with each other and have open communication with one another. I would never lie to my partner and I am looking for someone who also would never lie to me.
I care about physical and mental heatlh. I noticed that in the BDSM community there is a lot of mental health struggle and, if you have any mental issues(which you should informe me in your first message), only message me if you take care of your mind as in seeing a psychiatrist, psycologist, take medication, do whatever therapy that works for you. I am looking for something stable and you have to be stable too, so we can evolve together rather than me being your caregiver. One tip though, look up medicine that our Mother Earth has for our minds - psychedelics - I recently tried ayahuasca, which are plants from the Amazon and I had a positive experience with it, of feeling more compassionate and tolerant. But please keep in mind that if you abuse any drugs, including natural ones, or you self medicate because you do not want to work on your mental issues, I cannot be your Domme. I do not want someone who is high often, nor anyone who smokes anything or is addicted to nicotine, Xanax, alcohol or even coffee... maybe you got the idea.
I know how to keep a place clean and organized, and I expect those qualities from you. I am sadistic and love humiliation but I also am very loving, I give a lot of attention and compliments to my sub. Don't expect praise for regular things or every single thing you do for me but know that I pay attention to everything and appreciate real efforts and dedication. If any of these kinks are among your limits, we might not be compatible: foot worship, humiliation and CBT if that applies to your gender, because those are big kinks for me. I have to say I am not really into chubby guys and prefer men around 1,80 or over, who love curvy women.
I am not into brats, switches, people who identify themselthemselvesas "bulls" or anyone who does not identify themselves as submissive or slave. If you are younger than me and have a mommy fetish, I would be interested in exploring that and I have some taboo fetish but I am not interested in people who like pascifiers, wear diapers and while we are at it, I am also NOT intererested in people who are into breeding, sissification or dressing up like animals. The following fetishes are *super low* on my interests and could only be part of our D/s as rewards for hard (non sexual) work: bondage, chastity, fetishists clothes and high heels. My style is usually retro and/or formal/stylish. But I do prefer to feed the stray cats rather than buying a lot of clothes :)
It is your job to show me that you know that an FLR is what you want. Tell me what you have that I am looking for. Also make sure to include a clear face picture or, better, a video in which I can see your eyes well (I will ask for a video right in the beginning of the conversation anyway). DO NOT SEND ME A MESSAGE IF WE HAVE NO VALUES/HOBBIES IN COMMON and DO NOT send me your list of your sexual fantasies in your first message: this is just gross, coming from strangers on internet and it immediately shows that you have poor social/dating skills. It is important that, if you are not in the same city as me, you inform me that you are able to travel to me regularly and not only in a year from now or later, and tell me how we could possibly live together one day, because if you can't make these happen, there is no point messaging me. I am open for relocation.
This is me: https://imgur.com/a/voloWfA
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