Hey all,

First of all, thank you to everyone who takes the time to read this post in its entirety. The most important thing I want to say before I start introducing myself and what I'm hoping to find today is to announce that I am not in a hurry. I am looking for something committed and long-term, so I will not be taking any decisions to serve someone quickly, or lightly. I plan to spend at the very minimum, talking with someone for at least one week before I consider offering my submission. In short, I am looking for a Female Led Relationship, not a "Cum n Run" situation. To elaborate on this, in a perfect world I would be looking for someone in real life, though I am happy with someone online, and aim to build up to something in person.

Okay, so the disclaimer out of the way. I'm going to break this advert into a couple of different sections. I'll write this post mostly freestyle, but I will add a keynote at the end to summarise things.

About Me:

I don't plan on sharing my name on this post, all too quickly with anyone I meet. That being said, I am 41 years old and live in the North East of England. I live alone, with no pets (unfortunate because I love animals, however, the terms of my tenancy state no pets. Boo). I can switch, but I am very heavily leaning to the submissive side, almost now to the point where it's exclusive, though that really depends on the person Im with.

Right now, I work from home, primarily through office hours as well, (anywhere between 8am-6pm), and available most evenings. I do have a couple of other commitments outside of work that could impact my availability, but that is something I would be more comfortable discussing in private once I have got to know you a bit. I do have a few hobbies, ranging from but not limited to, Netflix, Gaming, Reading, Music, Playing guitar, some sports, and getting out to socialise.

As for my appearance, I'm around 5'7 tall, somewhat cuddly built, with a fully shaven head. Sadly I'm that unlucky one with the balding gene, so I figured I may as well bite the bullet and just maintain a shaved head as it looks better. People say it makes me look younger too, though personally, I don't see it!

I love social interactions. I can be somewhat reserved in terms of how I talk and the subjects I'll talk about. This is mostly a defence mechanism until I get to know you a bit better as I'm not one who enjoys offending people. Once I know someone better, the range of topics I'll engage with improves a lot, especially if we share similar morals and a sense of humour.

Who I would love to meet.

As for age range, I am quite flexible as long as you are of legal, consenting age. I am definitely more attracted to emotionally mature, intelligent people. I do not intend to disrespect women in general with this statement, though I have found the people locally, even around my age to behave quite childish. Particularly against ex-partners when they aim to weaponise their children to hurt their ex, rather than act in what is the best interest of their children. But I digress.

I would appreciate some common shared interests, however, that isn't too important, as I'd be more than willing to work on developing some shared interests with my Domme.

The most important attributes to me are communication skills, as well as someone who lives by the Safe, Sane, and Consensual approach. I get very weak at the knees for people who can clearly and effectively communicate their needs, and people who every step of a dynamic strive to ensure both our safeties. As outlined in the header, I'm looking for a Female Led Relationship, possibly pushing into TPE. I need to be confident that you are not only willing, but more than capable of looking after me, and what is in my best interests before I relinquish that kind of power over me. To use an expression;

"I am Mistress's most valuable possession, and I am proud to be owned by her", is the kind of mindset that you would strive to put into a submissive, then you're the kind of person I would love to meet.

The Kinky Me:

Okay, This section might be a bit lighter, as I generally feel this is something better suited to a more personal conversation. Though I will provide a general overview in terms of my experience and interest.

I've been involved with the D/s scene for about 13 years now. Most of this has been online, though there have been a few periods where this was in person. The wonderful lady who introduced me to the lifestyle was definitely one of the most enjoyable periods of my life, though sadly our personal circumstances made maintaining a relationship difficult. We are still very close friends, however, though that relationship is more like a Brother/Sister one these days.

Generally, most of my experiences around the scene have been positive, though I'm sure like most people have had their fair share of unpleasant ones. This is why I'm putting so much effort into finding the "Right Person", rather than just anyone. One thing I did learn recently while going through a period of reflection, is that a lot of the more traumatic moments in my life have influenced the kinks I'm more interested in. Perhaps this is a coping mechanism? Something for me to think about another day though.

It would be somewhat helpful if I provided a general overview of my likes/limits to give you an idea of what I am into. These lists aren't exclusive, so anything not on these lists, so if I do submit to someone, there may still be some negotiating needing completing before some activities are attempted.

As for pictures and videos. I am more than happy to verify who I am, and at the very minimum, I would expect you to be happy to reciprocate that.

- Likes:

Tease and Denial, Ass play, Anal, Some pain, CFNM, Online public, Flogging, Bondage, electro play, Clothes pegs, Candle Wax, Sounding, Chastity, Exposure games, Blackmail (for the right person, and I would insist on being in a real-life relationship with this person before starting to discuss this)

-Limits:

Feminisation, Sissification (I'd look ridiculous!) Extreme pain, blood, scat, water sports, Forced Bi. (These is the hard limits. Anything not on this list is probably negotiable, though if we do go down the blackmail route, I might be persuaded into more)

Toys:

Not applicable right now. Sufficient to say I have a decent collection, and occasionally look to expand on that.

Making contact:

I am happy for people to initiate contact through Reddit's messaging system, or through chat. Please tell me a bit about yourself, the kind of person you're looking for. I promise I will read every single message received and reply to almost everyone (Aside from low-effort messages, those I suspect are clearly scammers or time wasters).

If I feel there may be a connection, I will offer you another means to contact me so we can talk further, potentially going down the route of a voice or video chat. If I feel there is a connection, then I will offer my submission to be taken into consideration after about a week.

Should you accept, we will then spend some time negotiating and discussing expectations to build the foundation of a contract of sorts, so both of us have clear guidelines of what is expected of us.

Okay, so now for the Keynote version to help summarise as this is quite a long post:

About Me:

- 41 years old

- Reside in the UK - North East England

- I live alone

- Looking for: Female Led Relationship leading up to TPE

- Preferably RL relationship, though happy to work online if it could potentially lead to this.

About you

- Any age, as long as you are of a legal, consenting age

- Emotional maturity and intelligence is a must

- Be a champion of RACK/PRICK philosophy. (If you don't understand these acronyms, there's a good chance we won't be compatible)

- Be willing to move into a real-life dynamic at some point.

How to Contact me

- Reddit message

- Reddit chat

Well, I'd like to close this by thanking anyone who managed to read this far and is still interested! I look forward to hearing from you all!

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Bonus content:

Due to real life, I stopped actively looking for a short while. However, whilst I was searching, here's a break down of the responses I received:

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- The classic scam messages asking me to give them a tribute of my "commitment" in their opening message.

- One person thought I was insufferable on the basis that the part about my having a friendship with a former Domme was a faux pas.

- Several guys asking me to be their Domme

- Met one really cool person, though sadly they lived on a different continent, so it wasn't really going to work. I do still talk to them though... I know you're reading this!

- Met one person, and we went for coffee. Really nice person, though they decided they didn't wish to pursue things further.

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All in all a mixed bag, but I prefer to focus on the positives! I've met some cool people, and made new friends, so the previous attempts were still a success.