First a quick disclaimer, please DON’T respond to my post unless you’re willing to read everything. I ignore those messages. Just to make it easier for people to sort through posts; I am only looking for people between 21 to 32, who aren’t conservatives or fundamentalists. (These are all dealbreakers for me.) You must also be able to play in English.

Now that that’s out of the way a little about me; I’m a pretty alternative person, both in appearances and personality. I am bicurious, poly and a leftie. I’m a straightforward person and generally good at expressing myself. I also prefer direct communication from my partners. I find emotional games to be draining. I like my independence and can be incredibly stubborn sometimes.

I’m a private tutor. I like the flexibility of being self-employed and enjoy working with kids because someone needs to show them learning needn’t be tedious before school ruins the process forever. I’m confident in my creative ability; I love visual arts and jumping from medium to medium like a toddler with adhd. Creativity is an important part of my life and I love finding people I can share that with. I enjoy feeling mentally engaged; whether it’s problem solving, femdom mind games, long conversations or pondering and researching random things in the middle of the night. If not busy with the above, then I’m probably reading, cooking, watching video essays or binging TV shows.

As a Domme; I enjoy tease & denial, pegging/anal play, sensation play, impact play, erotic hypnosis, some aspects of humiliation and medical play. Specific kinks beyond that are not that important to me. I’m looking for someone to bounce off of (like a feedback loop of horniness haha) because what I really get a kick out of is the ability to elicit strong emotional responses from my subs, whether it’s from pleasure or pain. I like toying with my subs mentally and physically, figuring them out and catering to their individual kinks to create more tension, anticipation and sometimes a little anguish. This also means I’m open to exploring a lot of the kinks you have even if they aren’t attractive to me on their own. My exceptions are anything; illegal, unhygienic (yes that means most of water-sports too) or unsafe.

What I’m looking for more specifically;

1. On a scale of bedroom only to 24/7 lifestyle, my ideal dynamic falls somewhere in the middle. I’d like to hang out outside of play time as equals, and be able to have vanilla conversations where you don’t feel you have to tiptoe around me. Conversely I also like the idea of having more than just play time to have fun in. There should at least be regular reminders of our roles in the dynamic; flirting, tasks, photos, etc. (Obviously what this might look like needs to be negotiated first.)

2. I want more than just a casual play partner. I’m hoping for a long term dynamic with someone I can call my sub but also consider a real friend. In an ideal world a full on female led relationship would also be in the cards, but given the logistics of the situation this isn’t a very likely outcome. Even so, a dynamic is an important commitment to me and I’d like to find someone who feels similarly.

3. I would like someone I can connect with on a sfw level first. I won’t find you attractive if we can’t have an interesting conversation as peers first. Attraction is rarely just physical for me so play is out of the question until I get to know you well enough to take a liking to you. I don’t know how long that might be; it could be a week or it could be never and I won’t be pressured on this front, so if you are impatient we won’t be a good match. (Include something you’re proud of in your message to me so I know you’ve read everything.)

4. That being said my physical preference in men tends towards skinnier and feminine guys (I mean naturally feminine, sissyfication is not really my thing). I kind of like the idea of being able to physically overpower my sub and I definitely like the idea of being able to run my hand through my sub’s hair. (And maybe pull a little too.) Physical preferences are not a dealbreaker if we are a good match otherwise.

5. I’m gmt 3 so I’d prefer for you to be in a similar time zone or be available during compatible hours. (Just to be explicitly clear; North/South Americans, we are at least seven hours apart, it won’t work unless you are an early riser or at all if you’re on the west coast )

6. Someone who is open to non-monogamy as I’m poly and have a primary partner. (He wouldn’t be involved with my bdsm dynamic in any way, beyond knowing it exists.)

P.S. Don’t immediately offer your submission to me, tell me a little about yourself and let’s get to know each other. I get not wanting to type out your entire biography, so it’s ok to just write enough to start a conversation around. (Sending a sfw photo along with your message would be appreciated but isn’t necessary if you’re uncomfortable with it.)