Hi. I'm a divorced, well established Black woman who is nerdy. I chose full retirement in my late 50s to have more time to just enjoy life.

I want to meet a man with the following characteristics (if these traits below don't apply to you, we're not compatible): -you are 40 (the closer to my age the better) -you have integrity and your life is stable -you are unattached emotionally and legally -you have time to devote to getting to know someone -you are masculine in appearance (doesn't mean you need to be muscular) -you have healed enough from anything traumatic in your life to be able to form healthy connections with others -you want something with long term potential -you are local to me or close enough to travel to me frequently (across the country or across an ocean is NOT local) -you find strong women attractive -you find older women attractive

I want a connection that includes : -Hugs -Cuddles -Holding hands -Text messages that make us both smile -Date nights out/romantic evenings in -Voice calls/vid chats that make you sigh in comfort or shiver with need -you pinned between me and the nearest wall as I welcome you home from work -your head pillowed on my lap while I play in your hair and tell you what I've planned for our evening -You sitting in a chair with me on your lap, as I whisper in your ear, tease you and make you wait -Your eyes to light up when I walk in a room, knowing my eyes and smiles are just for you -old fashion courtesy/manners; open minded thinking and intellect -a best friend that I cannot keep my hands off

You want: -Attention from a real woman who will genuinely care for you -Praise when you've done well, encouragement after a rough day, respectful guidance or correction if needed -A nurturing supportive presence in your life (I'm on the gentle/soft/mommy end of the spectrum) -Someone who knows what she wants and what she doesn't, and will tell you so you don't have to guess -A woman who will respect the man you are in the world and the good boy you are just for her -someone resilient who understands that anything meaningful takes hard work, commitment, good communication, room to mess up, own it, and forgive it (for real) to keep things moving forward

Things I need you to understand if you want to succeed in interacting with me (yes, I'm literally telling you what will and won't work...pay attention to this. It's the truth, not a trap or ploy.):

1. I am demisexual. I need an emotional connection (friendship, respect, admiration etc.) before I can even feel other kinds of attraction. I need in person interactions to build such connection. Once I do feel attraction, my sex drive is strong. A man with patience and discipline, who knows how to listen and apply the information I've just shared, would see the benefit of this. The impatient would miss out.

2. I have an invisible disability/health situation that limits my ability to travel solo. So I will prioritize on locality or on you being able to travel to me. If you just say 'hey' or "hi" etc., when you respond, I will ignore you. If your first message to me is an overtly sexual message or a list of kink demands, I will block you. If you say something that warms my heart or makes me smile, you will get my attention. (Again, I'm giving you keys to succeed.)

Things you need: This is for you to say, should you decide to message me. We can discuss kinks and limits in detail after getting acquainted a bit (soon enough that I don't waste your time or mine; not so soon that the conversation repulses the demi part of me.)

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What 60 looks like https://imgur.com/pfb3oZ6.jpg

June 2023 image of me while gaming https://imgur.com/a/TbIpu1I