Rant

There are a million-and-one [M4F] posts on here. Some are heartfelt and thorough, some are vaguely hopeful and shallow, far too many are frigging shopping lists of kinks written by people who wouldn't know a healthy D/S relationship if it suddenly leapt out of the nearest tree and bitch-slapped them about the face. Those of us who owe BDSM for making us the people we are today should (and most likely do) look upon the latter as vaguely insulting to the scene as a whole.

About me

Right, now that that's off my chest, a bit about me: I'm an iberian guy that just moved to Germany. (can't speak the language yet) I love politics, cinema, sports and working out. I'm 5'7'' in case that matters.

No one would guess this aspect of my life if they just knew me day to day - I’ve spent a lot of the last few years getting very good at reading people - learning what they like but maybe haven’t explored due to taboo or not feeling safe enough to do so.

Kink

As for kink - I recall being into it as long as I've been sexual. From a very early age I have memories of being oddly into otherwise innocent things like depictions of women tied to train tracks (in a western or something). I explored gradually/clumsily until I was about 21 and met a professional dominatrix, who wanted someone to take her on dates and help out with scenes - I learned quite a bit of the technique/approach during that relationship, and since then it's been a part of most of my partnerships, to varying degrees.

For most of the time, I've been the dominant partner in my relationships - while fulfilling I'm finding something missing, and am at the point where I think I'd prefer to try submitting, which is where this comes in ...

Who are you

Ideally I'm looking for someone with a strong sense of what she wants, is playful/gregarious/humorous, will take me on dates, and generally serve as a pillar for a confident, dominant energy I've been missing. Hopefully you'll be mentally and physically healthy, take your interests/career seriously, able to communicate honestly/directly. Since I'm transitioning from an assumption of me being the lead, I'll probably also need someone who isn't afraid of being severe - from time to time.

Beyond that, I don't have any other set requirements - I'm open on age, and think that different dynamics can emerge depending on

Fun Stuff

I'm not 100% sure what my full kink-list would be, as a submissive - however, areas I'd like to explore include:

Edging/denial, maybe even chastity if there's solid trust

CBT

Forced-bi (not sure about this yet)

Worship, Goddess roleplay

Service-oriented (massages, sensual aggressive lovemaking after being denied for a period)

Long sessions (day in a hotel room, for instance)

Hit me up if you think we could be a good match. :)