About Me

I'm a lifestyle domme in a 24/7 TPE dynamic with my primary sub. Dominance is a natural part of who and how I am. That said, that said, I am also very human, I have hobbies, and I'm very happy to have a chat about most topics.

I am a terminally curious sort of person - I am yet to be bored by someone talking about something they're really passionate about.

When I can find the time, I write assorted things, including a D/s themed blog. If you're curious, feel free to take a look at my Reddit profile, which includes bits and pieces of my writing.

Friends

I am first and foremost looking for friends, particularly if meeting for coffee / dog walk / some board games, but online is okay too. Over the years, I have made a few genuinely good IRL friends from this subreddit and so I'm yet again throwing out this fish hook out into kinky waters.

I am after interesting, curious humans, who have a range of interests and developed opinions. If you have a butterfly mind and love an internet rabbit hole, we will probably get on.

Please do skip small talk - tell me about about your expertise, pet peeves, controversial opinion or, in fact, your latest internet rabbit hole in your opening message!

That said, if you are interested in friendship, I would just ask you get some substance into an opening message. I do wish I could get back to everyone, but I'm afraid to reply to all the 'hey wanna be friends' messages which land in my inbox would be a full time job!

Kink Things

I'm also looking for a sub or switch, male or female, who would be interested in a variety of double scenarios with my sub. I am looking to get to know someone to this end, to build a dynamic and friendship with - I am not looking to slot someone into a pre-existing fantasy.

What I'm looking for:

• I am looking for someone who can interest me. Include a topic of conversation in the opening message - as above, tell me about your expertise, pet peeve or controversial opinion. Tell me something I don't know, start a debate, share a fun fact. Messages which don't meet this requirement will mostly likely be ignored.
  
• Experience is preferred, sense of humour is required.
• Correct spelling and grammar is appreciated.
• Please be aged 22-35ish.
• Scope for irl meeting - I am not looking for online play.

I am after power exchange and control, so my exact preferences vary depending on an individual's 'buttons'. Dominance and submission are mental far more than they are physical.

My limits: anything illegal, scat, age play, any actively animal-like pet play, sissification.

My Kinks:

D/s is reactionary, so I don't have a favourite kink / fetish. It depends on the person, the context, my mood and so on. Here's a non-exhaustive list:

• Any form of power exchange, including tasks, restrictions, rules, protocol etc
• Bondage, (especially shibari) particularly creative applications, like predicaments; gags, restraint in general
• Sensory deprivation and prolonged bondage
• Humiliation and degradation (specific to the person)
• CNC (given the appropriate degree of trust)
• Service submission

Masochism is appreciated. For those so inclined, I also enjoy:

• All forms of impact play (caning, flogging, paddling, etc)
• All manner of clamps, pegs, ziplines etc.
• Emotional sadism in all its diverse forms

Questions

If anyone has any specific kink-related questions, whether you're a newbie or a veteran with a rant to share - feel free to message me. I'm always up for an interesting conversation.

If you have a general 'how do I kink question' please refer to the wikis on r/femdomcommunity or r/BDSMAdvice for some resource recommendations.

Just to pre-empt the most commonly asked question, being dominant is a part of who and how I am, it's not something I 'got into'.

Also, I don't have a favourite kink, food, board game, book... favourite anything, really. It depends on my mood, the context, and so on. I don't get how I people can pick just one!

How to write an introductory message - a helpful guide

DO:

• read this post;
• introduce yourself and tell me your name and age;
  
• include a conversation topic;
• ask specific questions you would genuinely like answers to;
• give your message (at least a quick) spell check and proof read;
• organise any longer messages into paragraphs;
• send me a message using Reddit chat - I usually don't reply to comments or DMs.

DO NOT:

• address me as 'Mistress' or by any other honorific;
• just write 'hey' or variants thereof;
• ask if you can be my sub (spoiler: if you're asking, the answer is a resounding 'no');
• say you'd 'love to get to know me' and include no conversation starter or questions or information about yourself (this happens surprisingly often);
• copy / paste your generic 'send to all dommes' message (I can tell);
• list all of kinks;
• list all your physical characteristics in excruciating detail (I really don't care about the size of any part of your anatomy);
• list explicit fantasies; or
• include dick pics.

If you've messaged me before and didn't get a reply, you are by all means welcome to give it another go. Please don't take it personally - my inbox does get chaotic and I don't always get through the chat invites I get.