After years of being involved on and off in a really play based local kink community, I'm looking for a more involved relationship with a dominant than just occasional play at parties/hotels/suspicious basements. I want to get to know someone who can, and I can comfortably let, get inside my head. I am active in my local community but like to be thorough, so leaving no stone unturned I'm looking online too. Someone who can occasionally pop into the constant barrage of overthinking going on in my head. I'm looking for someone more on the sadistic side who lives within a few hours of Ohio preferably 25-45 years old, but if we click, we click so don't let any of that be a deterrent (I like talking to people anyway).

About me, I am one of those people who is kind of too nerdy for jocks and too jocky for nerds. I've played ice hockey for years and still do recreationally, so I have the hockey player build (90% legs and ass, but the desk job isn't helping). I also play tabletop games (I'm pretty system agnostic) and prime and paint my own minis (I'm not good but I'm not the artsy type so its way out of my wheelhouse). As far as other nerdy pursuits I like overly complicated simulation games, the kind that aren't mechanically intense but it always has something for you to do (Factorio etc).

I am a switch but that doesn't mean I want to "tame" anyone or that when I am in a submissive role I'm not a "true" sub. I get told switches are greedy sluts who don't know what they want, which is ridiculous because I know exactly what I want. I do occasionally poke the sadist but that's I game I never win and I like it that way. If we form a relationship where I am a non-switching sub in our relationship I am a sub.

I am also poly, so I have a primary romantic partner and several other play partners. You are not obligated to interact with any of my other partners, but you need to be okay with their existence. Poly is not an excuse to cheat.

I feel like kink lists don't do justice to the why we enjoy each activity. My primary enjoyment from kink is based in objectification. To go from regular person with agency, to thing to be used at your leisure (and then back). Its just coincidence I like it too. I enjoy heavy impact, bondage, pegging/anal, sensory deprivation/play, tease and denial, chastity, body worship, massage, fire play, collar/leash, primal play, confinement, trampling, mild CBT and (now that I think about it) pretty much anything not on my hard limits list, especially if I have a partner who is REALLY into it.

Hard limits: head strikes, toilet play, purposeful blood play, needles, permanent damage, body modification, public play in vanilla spaces, blackmail. All parties involved must be consenting adults.

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