My (40M full fun profile) FwB (26f bi) let me look through her app today. My mind was blown. Here's what I learnt.

1. It's overwhelming. 7000 likes and 400 pings. No one human can keep up with that. It's off-putting and I wanted to shut it off just by looking at it. Lesson learned not hearing back is largely down to volume.

2. Men can't take a hint. Men outside of age or location range, men with no profile, just playing the law of averages. But by doing so, they're dragging down all potential connections. Lessons learned Really make an effort. You don't have to be Owen Gray, be a human being with something to say and clearly provide as much info as you can.

3. Men cheat the system. Endless profiles of hot women. Which would be great. Except that it's actually a couples profile and the woman references she's looking for a female third halfway through her bio and one random shot of the guy as the last photo. My FWB is currently only looking for F partners alone. Lessons learned double check bios. Even with filter on searching for women only these guys (who I presume are just the guys) are creeping. They should be reported.

4. Ping/like. While the Ping list is smaller it's still huge and unwieldy and almost entirely men. My partner finds pings just as much as a trawl as liking. And she prefers liking who she likes for it to match as you both (in theory) like each other.

So here's my question. Do women: A. Just read pings and decide to chat to those people or B. generally keep Pings in mind but are swiping left and right on who you like to match?

There's a thesis to be written on behavioural herd tendancies of Feeld matches. I can't write it but questions like these may help collective learning.