So this is another one of those, "what am I missing posts" from a dude so bear with me 😄. I've used feeld off and on for several years, and in general I've not had luck with dating apps. Not necessarily the actual dating. I'm witty and fun and whatnot, the problem is really that I can go months on this app with no likes or no response to a first message.

I'm really looking for feedback since asking folks why they swipe left isn't an option (and would honestly be weird if it was...)

A bit about me. 34M, 5'9, white, cisgender, fluid (I've used the heteroflexible label because it's closest)male. Slim but strong/muscular build (climber and skateboarder). Well groomed and dress well, and honestly I've got abs in my 30's! I have a nesting partner with our profiles linked, and they are 35AG, AFAB. I keep a bio that includes my hobbies, details about me, what I am looking for in relationships, and that my partner and I date separately and together. My pics could probably use some work, but I don't think they're bad. All clear pics, me in social contexts, me climbing and skating, and a couple where I'm just looking pretty stylish, dammit.

So I'm just wondering if there's things that in particular put AFAB folk or women off. Is there some bias against the heteroflexible label? Does having my profile linked with my partners put people off? What's the balance of talking directly about relationship dynamics you're interested in without sounding like one of the fuckboys in hiding? Idk, sure I'm missing something. Just help this doofus out!!! 🤣