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How are these faraway people able to see me?
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I donā€™t mean the 8000 miles away but ā€œexploringā€ group - thatā€™s a whole other annoying thing but weā€™ve got threads on that already, or people with vpnā€™s or whatever.

I mean people who are 100 - 200 miles away - because I canā€™t get past roughly 38 miles before Feeld wonā€™t show me any more. Iā€™m in a rural place, but that takes me to the edge of the two nearest cities (which is also annoying - me being able to see you is a postcode lottery).

My (F51) filters are pretty wide, anyone except MF couples, age range 25 yrs wide, no distance filter (because - see this post - whatā€™s the point), no desires filters because theyā€™re useless. Iā€™m down as pansexual so that should include everyone except straight women and gay men. So I donā€™t believe itā€™s because Iā€™ve run out of people, it just stops at that distance.

With the best will in the world, clearing my feed so more people can be seen takes a really long time. I think about my likes really carefully, so Iā€™ll like a few who make my heart flutter, X the ones who I can see wouldnā€™t be a good fit and are paralysed into inaction about the ones in the middle. I mean the ā€œjust seeing what this is about peopleā€ that you just canā€™t make a judgement on, I could X them but then I get terrible FOMO at the idea that they might update their profile to say something interesting. Anyway I do my best, and sometimes I filter out men, because theyā€™re the majority and I want to see other types of people too, but even if I exclude women as well that still only takes my range to about 45 miles. Iā€™ve never managed it get it much further even if Iā€™m really ruthless because itā€™s made not so easy to swipe quickly like that (which actually I donā€™t think is a bad thing), so it would be very RSI inducing to clear them all.

So how come people can see me and like me from so much further away (without me travelling) ? London is 120 miles and I often get people liking me from there, and further, but I have never been able get anywhere near London in my search. Glastonbury is 20 miles from me, in between, so last weekend that was my limit! Yet still they were able to!

(London is the nearest city to me you can explore by the way, so thatā€™s not the explanation either, that people explore nearby - I know that affects lots of people on here)

I have 4 explanations:

1)They are X-ing 3 countiesā€™ worth of people to see me - unlikely, Iā€™d like to say I have a good profile but Iā€™m not that special and also my age is a negative factor (with Feelds user base being mostly younger people) and they must have a lot of time on their hands

2) They are indiscriminately liking 3 countiesā€™ worth of people, including me. I sincerely hope this isnā€™t the answer but unfortunately it is possible

3) There is such a low number of women on Feeld vs men that they can see much further with less people to look through. We do know that thereā€™s a disparity as with all sites yes but this seems extreme. Very unscientific and rough maths but if I can see 40 miles and they can see 160 that means itā€™s 20% women to 80% men. Thatā€™s awful - for both sides!

4) Iā€™m missing something! (a super-special- emperor-level subscription with extra features - /s, no need to correct me). Or thereā€™s something wrong with mine (more likely)

(Oh,and thereā€™s nothing unusual on my profile I donā€™t think, that could mean a specific search would find me from a long way away. I have ticked being dominant, but the profiles of the people liking me donā€™t suggest this is a thing, and Iā€™m sure thatā€™s not that unusual anyway)

TLDR - my question: Iā€™d love to know how many people you can see, after a refresh and without taking any liking / X-ing action, and how far away in miles that takes you?

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Thanks but I donā€™t think so because thereā€™s loads of them, and when I get a notification of a like, mostly Iā€™ll see it and go and look straight away (because Iā€™m very distractable at work), and see theyā€™re 200 miles away immediately, so they wouldnā€™t have been able to travel so far.

I should clarify in general on my question, I donā€™t want to be able to see people far away, I just want to be able to see all of my nearest city rather than a bit of it, so I want to see (and be seen from) about 60 miles max. I donā€™t understand why someone from that far away wants you to talk to me, itā€™s so pointless. There might be an explanation for the odd one, but not all and thereā€™s loads, it seems to have started as an issue in the last few weeks.

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