I suppose what I'm looking for is rather niche, and perhaps the numbers are not in my favor. Still, I feel compelled to at least try; because what good is there in life if we do not actively seek what we desire...

For all my life, it's always been the case that the more attracted I am to a woman, the more I want to serve her, subordinate myself to her, do whatever I can to please her, long to be owned by her. It's as instinctive to me as any other sense... and yet so at odds with prescribed gender roles. For a long time I thought something was wrong with me feeling this way; yet I've come to see that its perfectly natural variation in human sexuality, and it's society itself that is closeminded and wrong.

Still, it makes it very hard for me to seek this kind of thing. Particularly in real life; there's enough of an irrational taboo that I can't actively seek it except online. And I feel I'm about in that stage of life where it might be nice to settle down and submit to a nice lady. So that kinda brings me here. :)

I'm really looking for something quite like a 'normal' relationship - just one where my girlfriend would be the dominant partner. I'd really love the idea of serving and pampering her however she wants, focusing on her pleasure and comfort first and foremost. I'm very service oriented, and like the idea of being very obedient to her. Not looking for sadism or BDSM cliches; rather a genuine, affectionate relationship where we both agree it's preferable for the woman to hold power.

Of course communication is very important in any relationship, so there'd have to be channels to discuss big issues together, but most of the time I'd be really happy to do whatever my girlfriend wanted. It feels great to serve her and help motivate her to achieve her goals.

In the long run, if we click, I'd like this to be an in-person relationship rather than long distance. But given my own location (East Asia) and the current epidemic making travel effectively impossible anyway, probably makes sense to talk online and see what happens. People in Asia probably preferred since I'm nearby, but location is no real obstacle.

A bit about me:

• 31
• INTP/J
• Living in Asia, but originally from the West. I can speak Mandarin moderately fluently.
• 184 CM
• Brown Hair, Green Eyes. A little facial hair.
• Working in education; thinking of going back to graduate school in a year or two.
• I really enjoy travel (I've been to over 30 countries!) and biking / hiking / being in nature in general. I also enjoy weightlifting and try to stay relatively fit.
• Equally well, I'm a homebody. I enjoy chilling and watching true crime documentaries or ones on pretty esoteric philosophy or many other things. Heh.
• I really have a thing for psychological horror and science fiction films
• I have an idea for a novel and REEEEAAALLLY need to start writing it this coming year.

Sorry, I really suck at self-introductions. 0__0

But in the off-chance you're, like me, looking for a rather unconventional, female-led relationship and maybe want to talk, shoot me a message. I'm happy to answer any questions you may have, and would love to know more about you too.

If you made it this far through my crazed ramblings, thanks a lot. And hope you have a lovely and productive 2021. Can't possibly be as bad as this year has been.