Asking this as I'm genuinely curious if anyone else has been through a similar situation.

I (M28) and my wife (f26) started trying last year and found out she was pregnant at the start of November. Very sadly, by the end of the month she had a serious blood clot induced by the pregnancy and we lost the baby very early on.

As treatment she needed to inject blood thinners daily which was horrendous for her as she really hates needles. Her mental health took a dive and this went on for weeks after the pregnancy loss.

Which brings me to the catch 22. Any future pregnancy, she must inject these blood thinners as soon as she finds out she's pregnant and for months after baby is born. If we try again and everything works out, we are both more or less agreed we would only want one child because of the health complications.

Given all of this, I'm feeling a bit stuck. On the one hand I really would love to be a dad and it's something I've always wanted. But I don't want it at any cost and fear handling a newborn baby with wife who has been mentally and physically destroyed by a high risk pregnancy.

On the other, part of me thinks I should make peace with not having kids so my wife doesn't have to put herself through absolute hell to bring life into the world.

Not asking for answers necessarily just advice if anyone at all can relate.