Because of your first-hand knowledge, your sound advice, and honesty, I'm asking the right questions to men I'm attracted to and switching gears in my dating groups. I just really wanted to thank you all. I was in a horrifically abusive relationship with my (white) ex-husband. He stole all my money, shattered my leg, hurt my back, gave me a concussion, I was in the hospital for 3 months and wheelchair bound for 2 years. He cheated on me with men, women, and prostitutes. And the list goes on. I'm trying to avoid a repeat performance. I appreciate you all letting me know your thoughts, experiences, opinions, expertise, and steering me the right direction.