I left the church officially last May. My hubby stopped going to church in December, mostly because he simply doesn't like going, but he still says he believes a lot of the doctrine. This last year has (obviously) been hard, but also so, so good. So many good, deep conversations. I feel closer to him than I ever did before.

My hubby has been supportive through it all (e.g., me drinking coffee, getting tattoos, wearing shorts, etc). The only sticking point has been alcohol. He has alcoholic family members who have and continue to damage themselves through alcohol. One has actually died of cirrhosis. When we tried to talk about me starting to drink last November (before he stopped going to church), we had a blow up fight. I mean massive. He viewed it as me choosing between him and alcohol. Because of that, I didn't drink. When viewed on those terms, obviously I choose him.

However, in the last two months, I've been thinking about it more. I grew up in a non-member family, so I saw responsible drinking all the time it was definitely a cultural, social thing. I'm 30. I want to experience what so many other adults experience. I don't want to be told what I can and cannot do by my husband (honestly this is the only instance when he has ever dictated my behavior. He's a wonderful spouse.) I've been wanting to talk to my husband about it again, but kept chickening out.

We finally has such a wonderful conversation last night. We talked about why I want to drink, his worries, my concerns, all of it. Our conversation never got heated. We really just listened to each other. At the end of the conversation, he said that he was already planning on surprising me with beer for our wedding anniversary trip this weekend. Ha! I was very surprised. I didn't realize he had made such strides in the last few months.

I've obviously excited to drink (moderately of course), but I'm more excited that my hubby are even more on the same page than we were before.

TL/DR: My TBM-ish husband is OK with me drinking!