I'm not going to name the town except to say it had a population of about 50,000 people. This was in the early 2000s. Through my teens and early twenties I had several sexual partners who were former Mormons, and for almost all of them I was their first. I know for a fact that at least some of them "recommended" me to their friends as they left the church because I wasn't "weird" about it or something.

Recently on Facebook I reconnected with one of the girls. She's lovely and doing really well on her own, though it seems her family barely speaks to her now. In a comment thread ona photo one of our mutual friends, who's still in the church, kind of blamed me for her leaving, and said that back in the day I was "exploiting" the sexual urges of good Mormon girls or whatever.

I talked with a couple of the girls — I'm still friends with almost all of them — and none of them seemed to feel that way, but as a never-been-a-Mormon, is this a thing that comes from some weird church thing? Is she over-reacting? Or was I taking advantage in some way?

I'll point out that all of the girls were of age and completely the instigators in every situation and none of them has ever said anything negative about our activities together. That being said I have no idea why I'm so uncomfortable about this. I live in Las Vegas and there are lots of Mormons around and I always feel like *they know* or something.