I walked completely away about a month ago. At the time my wife was also having issues with local leaders. She wanted 30 days to work through it. The next day, she was back full blown believer.

We went to counseling on Thursday to work through how to have a mixed faith marriage. During the session I disclosed that I had been struggling for over a year. Afterwards she asked what was my concerns. I stated that first off the translation of the BOM. That crumbles the rest.

Last night while she was at work she read all the gospel essays and the CES letter. Guess which one she found more disgusting... The essays! She like the CES letter but felt he was getting mad at the end, but didn't blame him.

She told me she is going to need time and be patient with her. I told her of course I will.

Some of her hold ups:

1. She doesn't not want to believe in a god. I told her she can and even have the freedom to believe in any god she wants. She doesn't have to abile by a set of rules.

2. She wants to be able to raise the kids with some kind of foundation. I said we can do so with any kind of Christian base. Again, no rules required.

3. She's trying to process all the spiritual events she knows she felt. She works in a hospital and has felt both light and dark forces in rooms where patients pass. Other workers, not mormon, have also felt them. But the biggest one I don't know how to help with is feelings she had while in the temple

So the advice I'm looking for is how do I help her the best? Has anyone had a spouse go through similar paths on the way out? Has anyone delt with these themselves?

Thanks in advance. You all have been great in my own path to freedom.