I have a question: I’m one of 8, only child that has “fallen away.” My family has a reunion every summer, and always try to start each day with a devotional, and of course every morsel of food needs a prayer, and then a huge testimony meeting at the end.

I know for some of you on this SR, the trauma from your history with the church wouldn’t let you participate, and you’ll say “tell them you’re not coming if you make me do to that shit.” Understandable. But for me, I feel I’ve come to terms with it, and don’t hold onto much resentment or anger about the church anymore. I can accept it’s not for me, but might work for some, and I recognize that my worldview allows me more flexibility to be tolerant and adapt than they are capable of. For that reason, I’m happy to support my family members that find it works for them. I want to keep my relationships and am not interested in creating unnecessary roadblocks.

My point is, I don’t want to be pressured into pretending I believe any of it, but am fine to acknowledge any good parts I do believe in, and be a passive participant. How do I set those boundaries without turning it into them vs me?