TLDR: parents visit me while I'm DF, provide encouragement, love, and groceries. They are still PIMI but more to the promises of the watchtower.

I was DF 4 months ago and my parents have a hard time shunning me. Today was the first day we actually got to talk. They got me some groceries and checked in on me. This whole DF thing really hurts our family connection and my mom is struggling with the man made rule.

I expressed how my mental health has vastly improved by not being forced into a mold and tried to gauge if they would shun me if I was reinstated and then faded. I have an uncle who is inactive and my grandmother visits him from time to time.

I gave the backstory on Norway and how that process went down. Mentioned Jesus never shunned people, ate with tax collectors ran through a few things but not much.

My dad agrees with my views of not liking man made rules, I have my freedom now. They won't be upset if I date outside JW.

I joked around and said what if they allow birthdays or change the blood doctrine. My mom Immediately jumped in and said they would never, bithdays are super pagan and jesus gave his blood.

So I could care less about birthdays but I really want them to change the stance on birthdays to see my moms reaction.

There's definitely no waking them up and it's gonna be hard but I might have to go from POMO to PIMO. It's so difficult because they are far from "spiritual giants" and could be woken up but the promise of paradise and seeing my grandfather resurrected and having a big family garden or something has trapped their minds.

Everything is justified for them with new or old light. Idk this sucks I'm happy to talk with them and catch up but I don't want the stupid rules or forced to live watchtower life.

Just venting this crazy exjw/jw experience