I made a post on here yesterday about how when the time comes for our JW mother’s funeral and I had concerns about elders coming in and taking over. Telling us what we can and can’t do. I called my sister yesterday, she’s disfellowshipped with no intention of ever going back. I explained all of this to her. She understood where I was coming from and also shared some of my concerns. What I did not know is that she has a plan. When the time comes, hopefully a few more years from now, at least. She is not going to reach out to anyone from the JW‘s to have them do any kind of service or deliver any kind of talk at her funeral. It is going to be held at a local funeral home that our family is dealt with for decades. So the KH thing is out. What she is planning on doing is setting it up like a memorial service. Anyone who wants to get up to talk about our mother and share memories of her will be able to do that. Any JW’s will be welcome to attend. There will be this understanding that this is to talk about our mother and memories of her, and not an opening for them to do one of their little infomercial presentations. If that keeps any of them from attending, so be it. If they want to have some type of memorial service for her on their own. They can do that. We won’t be there, so this fire has been put out before it even started. Any possible way for them to come in and try to take over has been dealt with. I took a couple of the suggestions that everyone here made, and I pass them along to my sister. So for now the situation is dealt with before it even arises. Thank you much to everybody who commented and gave me some really good ideas.