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Those that have left the church but spouses remained, how did you manage your marriage?
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For background, I recently left my very conservative Reforned/Calvinist church which my wife still attends and is very serious about her faith. My children have gone sometimes and stayed home, we both said that we should let them chose and she seems to be fine with that. Things are still pretty new and going relatively smooth but I see this as being very problematic going forward and she doesnā€™t seem to think itā€™ll be that bad.

Things I see as a problem that I donā€™t know how to address:

  • Her (along with her family and other church people) encouraging our children and me is seen as positive and loving. If I were to share my views, it would not get the same warm embrace. I would be the evil one, ā€œbetter to have a stone around neck and thrown into riverā€ thing.
  • The idea that my views arenā€™t as different as they are evil and something needing change. Iā€™m not someone who hasnā€™t heard the gospel, Iā€™m an apostate.
  • Leadership in the house. We come from a very conservative background where the man was the spiritual leader and leader of the household. Now Iā€™m a heathen who will be in direct conflict with her on many moral issues.

Iā€™m sure there are way more, but wondering how you guys that have gone through this have dealt with it. Had we come from a more liberal background, I could see it being less of an issue but my wife and our old church are very black and white on everything.

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