So I often felt very very violated when someone would come and say “god told me you are struggling with addiction” or “god told me you are struggling with lust” and these types of topics were often such shameful topics in the church setting.

My question was, why would god tell these people who are so judgmental about such things all my business. But also, wouldn’t god know that his people are judgemental and telling specific people will result in terrible or painful situations for someone who is also his person?

Idk if this makes sense, but the amount of times things were told to my mom for example about very personal things in my life, and how it backfired and put me in a dangerous position whether mentally emotionally or whatever it was was too many. And I always wondered why he never came to me about those specific situations that’s she would confront me about.

It made me realise that some of the things people come to you about is absolute bullshit and what makes people stay is the guilt and fear of going to hell.