Ok, never thought I'd be posting this on reddit of all places. Feels kinda weird but it doesn't hurt to try right? I'll try to make this as short as possible.

So, I haven't had a proper relationship in a long time, like several years long. My last relationship ended terribly and I just didn't want to go through that pain again, so I didn't. I also felt like I needed to deeply reflect upon myself and I've found that sharing your life with someone can make that process messier. I needed to be at a point in my life where I was comfortable with who I am and what I want.

So here I am. By this point I know that I can be alone, but I simply don't want to. I thought I did, but I don't. There's something beautiful about getting to know someone, as flawed and complex as we all are, and still caring for them, wanting to be there for them, to make their life better and knowing they have your back too. I don't buy the more traditional, idealised concept of romantic love of finding the perfect person or whatever, I don't think life works that way, but that exactly what makes it so special, don't you think?

Ok, enough, about that:

Appearance wise I'm 185cm tall (6.1"?) and have kind of a dadbod I guess. I've been lifting for years now so I'm fairly muscular, but nothing crazy. I'm open to sharing pics if you are! I won't say physical attraction doesn't matter at all but I don't really have a particular preference.

Hobbies: So many of them. I have ADHD so they're in constant rotation. I'm more of a homebody but I'm always open to trying new stuff and like to socialize every once in a while at least. I like lifting, running, reading and writing. I like videogames but I tend to favor single player ones, I like anime/manga and I love well written tv shows (think Mad Men, Six Feet Under, The Americans...), I really like practicing combat sports like Boxing or Muay Thai when I find the time, I meditate... I'll leave it at that as those are the most consistent, but I really do like trying lots of different things, like failing to learn an instrument (I've always wanted to try and play the bongos for some reason) or throwing the tarot just as a self reflection tool, I don't believe in it as I'm not a spiritual person but it seemed interesting. Sometimes I just like to walk or drive around and explore to see what places I can find. Doesn't happen that often, but it does.

I'm a very introspective person in general and I like figuring out what makes people tick and why, so stuff like psychology, philosophy and the like are always interesting to me. I like taking psychedelics once or twice a year as a way of reframing my perspective on things and I love when I get to do it socially, as they tend to be memorable experiences when done responsibly in my experience.

Music: Been listening to a lot of Metalcore and Metalcore-adjacent music lately. TDWP's two latest albums are amazing, Of Mice And Men, Polaris, alexisonfire, Capstan... just recently discovered Deftones and I love them. Traditionally though... Arctic Monkeys, The Strokes, Frank Ocean, NIN and a lot of pop punk cause that's what I listened to when I was 15 and I'll always love it.

So, yeah, if any of this sounds interesting to you let me know so we can chat and see how it goes from there :)