I've been in a open relationship going on 12 years, but as an honest man it is damn hard to find play partners.. now I prefer to get to know women first, and hopefully make a friend as well long term... but I have known countless guys who cheat, with no issues and find women all the time.. but be up front and honest with women, and they think I'm lying, I've even had women text or message my wife... but I still struggle I try to get involved with different groups but a lot of times it's me looking for a playmate, my wife and I have shared other women, but sometimes we are attracted to different women, and we would never limit the other from playing just because she wasn't my interest... or gorgeous women I'm attracted to are a part of relationships where they want to hard swap, and I'm not dissing that but my wife isn't interested I'm their husband's... so I'm often seen as a "single" man in lifestyle, I am also aware that I'm not everyone's interest, I am a Dom, the definition of a sexual sadist, that is always trying to safely push a woman's boundaries safely.
But still I struggle to find play mates, and it's frustrating.. now don't get me wrong my wife and I have a phenomenal sex life and are still to thus day finding new ways to please each other, l am not looking for a replacement for her and anyway, and don't think I could find a woman to replace her, but I would still like to find new playmates that I can chat with get to know and if things spark maybe play with some. I think the absolute greatest gift even given was a female orgasm, or a true masochist sub that wants to be pushed to their limits.

Just a little bit of a rant, but feel free to chat if you're interested. I'm curious if others have had the same problem male or female.

Thanks for reading