It was one of the most intense sexual experiences of my life, so naturally I remember it like it was yesterday...

Maria was a woman I saw casually for a few months. I was only 22 at the time, and she had just turned 40. I suppose you could say that Maria was the one who opened to my eyes to what sex could be. Before her my sexual encounters had all been quite vanilla. A kinky session with a girl would have meant she let me cum on her, or she took it in the ass. Don't get me wrong - I enjoyed sex even in its most basic form, but Maria showed me that there were levels beyond my wildest young imaginings.

We were at her place, where we typically met, although this was only maybe the second or third time we'd done so. It was a sunny summer afternoon, and we were fucking.

Maria was on all fours, I was behind her, and I was, well, pounding away. It was pretty much my only move. I'd seen porn, and I knew that what every woman wanted was a relentless hammering action. You bang them as hard as you can for as long as you can, and then you cum. That's what sex is, right?

I was concentrating on not cumming. I'd been getting better at that recently, after learning that if you felt you were getting close, you just thought about something else. Didn't matter what it was, you just found anything that you didn't find sexy, and you focused on that until the feeling passed.

At that time I was thinking about what I was going to have dinner that night, whether I could afford to eat out, or if I'd need to settle for whatever I had in the cupboards at home. It was clearly working well, because when Maria spoke I got a bit of a shock. I was so in my zone, pummeling away on her pussy but trying to think about not pummeling away on her pussy, that I think I'd pretty much forgotten she was there.

"Is this fun for you?" she asked, her voice slightly out of breath, but, if I'm being honest, more bored than anything else.

"Yeah," I replied instinctively. "It's great."

"Really?"

She sounded so genuinely surprised by my answer that I slowed down my rhythm, but I didn't stop.

"Yeah?" I said again, only this time it was more of a question than a statement. "Why? Shouldn't I be? Am I doing something wrong?"

There was a pause, and for a horrible few seconds I thought she was going to tell me to stop fucking her, but clearly Maria was just taking her time to find words that wouldn't shatter the confidence of an enthusiastic 22 year old.

"No, Mikey, you aren't doing anything wrong, it's just that... well... is this all you want sex to be?"

I stopped entirely, my dick halfway in and halfway out of her pussy. I didn't know how to answer her. I didn't even really understand her question.

"You want to go on top?" I asked.

She giggled at that. In retrospect I know she wasn't really laughing at me, but at the time the sound of a woman laughing while my penis was inside her did cause that penis to shrink quite a bit.

Maria pulled forward so that my dick fell out of her and rolled onto her back. She really was beautiful. Shoulder-length dark hair framed a pretty elfen face. Her eyes were neither grey nor blue, but somewhere in-between. They were looking at me, kneeling there with my dick bobbing about in the breeze, suddenly feeling very aware of myself.

"What do you want from sex, Mikey? Is it enough for you to get your dick inside a woman, fuck her until you cum and then go home for snacks and beer?"

I got the feeling that telling her that sounded very close to my ideal fuck was probably a bad idea, if I wanted any chance of getting back inside her.

"No," I replied, hesitantly, searching my mind for a good answer. "I want the woman to have an orgasm too."

"Okay. That's a good start, but is it enough? Is it enough that you both have an orgasm? Don't you think that how you get to that orgasm is important too?"

I thought I knew what she was driving at now. I hadn't done it much before, but I was absolutely keen and eager to try.

"You want me to go down on you? Is that what you're saying?"

Maria's head falling back onto the bed in exasperation told me that what I'd suggested was not what she was looking for.

"Maria, I don't know what you want me to say," I said, probably more than a little petulantly. "Tell me what it is you want and I'll do it. I'm not a prude. I'm up for anything. You want me to lick you I'll do it. You want me to go on top, or you go on top, or you want it faster or slower, or whatever it is you want just tell me!"

She lifted her head and looked at me again. I could see she was considering something, but I had no idea what it was. Finally, she spoke again.

"Do you want me to blow your mind, Mikey?"

"Yes," I replied instantly.

"And are you willing to listen closely to what I say, and to do exactly what I tell you?"

"Yes. Definitely. Of course."

She regarded me for a further few seconds, and then got back into her original position, on all fours. I was weirdly pleased that she wasn't looking at me anymore.

"Okay," she said. "Tell me what you see."

I guessed she didn't want a description of the bedroom, so I focused on the important stuff.

"I can see your butt, and your pussy."

"Good. What do you think of my butt?"

"I think it's.... great?"

"Lick it."

I dutifully leaned forward and licked her ass cheek.

"No. Lick the hole."

Three words, that's all she said, and yet I felt like I'd been punched in brain. You didn't lick assholes! Maybe you fucked them, but you definitely didn't lick them.

"Don't worry, Mikey," she said. "I promise you I'm clean. Stick out your tongue, and lick my asshole. Get it really wet, please, because once you lick it, you're going to put your dick in it."

I mean, there's really nothing on earth that'll motivate a guy better than the promise of anal sex. So, I did as Maria instructed, starting off with just the tip of my tongue but quickly finding I liked doing it, and ending up rolling my entire tongue all over her quivering little butthole. As I did it I heard Maria making sounds that I'd never heard any girl make. Ever.

She was gasping and panting and groaning and pressing her ass back hard onto my mouth. And she was speaking too, sexy, encouraging words that went straight to my dick.

"Fuck yes, that's it Mikey. Remember to get it wet for me. Lick my little asshole. That's a good boy."

After maybe two minutes of licking, Maria's asshole was slick and slippery with my saliva, and my cock was straining to be allowed to fuck it.

"Okay," she said eventually. "You can stop now."

I did so immediately, and knelt up with my cock in my hand ready to push it into her now soaking asshole, but Maria had other ideas.

"Not yet, Mikey. Soon, but not yet. First I want you to just watch, okay?"

I wasn't sure what I was meant to watch, but then her hand appeared between her legs and she started to rub her pussy. She wasn't gentle with it. As I watched she pushed three fingers deep inside herself, then pulled them back out, glistening with her juices. She pushed them in again.

"Do you see how my hole stretches, Mikey? Do you see how it starts off small, but it opens up so easily?"

"Yes, I can see."

And I could. I watched as her pussy opened to take her fingers in, and then closed around them as she pulled them back out. I hadn't ever really looked at one so closely before. I was more than a little bit transfixed, and then Maria pulled three fingers out, but put four back in.

"Fuck," I said quietly, but obviously not so quietly she didn't hear me.

"You like that?" she asked.

"It's so fucking hot," I replied truthfully, watching her fuck herself with four fingers, watching as she splayed those fingers and stretched her hole even wide. And the sounds too. I'd never heard a pussy sound so.... silky.

She moved slightly on the bed, the hand that wasn't fucking her pussy was under her pillow, searching for something. A second or two later it emerged holding a little clear plastic bottle. She passed it back to me.

"Lube," she said. "I need you to squirt some on my hand, and some on my pussy, and get a little bit on my asshole too. I can feel that your saliva is dying up."

I took the bottle and popped the lid up. I'd never used lube before. I thought you only needed it if you weren't good enough to get a girl wet on your own. That's what my mates said anyway. But, right there and then, Maria could've told me drink the bottle of lube and I probably would have. Squirting it on her hand and her holes was something I happily did, watching as the clear, thick substance poured over her.

"Why do you need lube?" I asked. "Your pussy looks wet anyway."

"For this," was all she said.

I watched, completely amazed, as she tucked her thumb into her palm, and began to push her whole hand into her pussy. I watched as it opened up, could see how much it was stretched, as she very slowly inched her way inside herself. The knuckles of her hand were the widest part, and by the time she got to them, her hole was gaping wide open, wider than I ever knew a pussy could stretch to, so wide that it looked impossible. And yet, she kept pushing, until her knuckles slipped into her, and the rest of her hand followed quickly until all I could see was her wrist.

"Fucking hell!" I shouted. "Fucking hell, Maria!"

"It feels so good, Mikey," she said, panting, breathing hard, the words coming out singularly rather in a flowing sentence, like it took effort for her to speak. "I love feeling so stretched. Does it look sexy? Do you like it?"

"It's the hottest thing I've ever seen," I answered, truthfully. "It's fucking incredible. You've got your whole hand inside yourself."

"I do," she said. "And now you're going to put your cock in me too, Mikey."

I knew she meant put it in her asshole, purely because there seriously wasn't anymore space in her pussy, but even her asshole somehow looked smaller than it had before. Like her pussy being so stretched meant that her asshole had had to shrink a little.

"You're sure?" I asked.

"I'm sure, but go slowly, okay? And try to get a lot of lube on the tip of your dick. Act as if you're trying to push as much of it as possible into my asshole."

I was nervous as I held the base of my cock and tried to do as she asked, running it up and down her ass, trying to herd the lube into a bigger blob right on her asshole. My dick was utterly, utterly solid.

When there was a much lube there as I could get, I started to push my dick into her. At first her asshole was so tight that I didn't think I'd get it in, but Maria encouraged me to push a little bit harder, and gradually the swollen head of my cock started to dip into her asshole.

I could feel that I was forcing it to open up for me.

I could hear Maria breathing in an unnatural, deliberate way. Inhaling with purpose, exhaling with purpose.

"Slowly," she said. "That's it, nice and slowly."

I fought the urge to drive it right deep into her. I concentrated on listening to her words and following her instructions. I tried to ignore how incredibly tight and amazing her asshole felt. I knew even then that this wasn't something I was going to experience very often in my life, and I didn't want it to be over too soon.

"Does it feel good?" Maria asked, scuppering my attempted ignoring.

"I.... I can't," I whispered. "I don't want to cum. Not yet."

"Shhhhhh," she soothed me. "You won't cum. Right now you're doing this for me, not for you. Do you want me to feel good, Mikey?"

"Yes."

"Then you won't cum. You'll just keep pushing it into me. You'll enjoy how it feels, but you won't lose control of yourself, because you want me to enjoy it too. Right?"

"Yes, I want you to enjoy it."

And I did. The way she guided me, the way she took control of my actions, the way she was opening my eyes to the possibilities of what sex could be; I wanted this incredible woman to know how grateful I was for all of that.

Miraculously, as soon as that thought entered my mind, and I accepted that Maria deserved her pleasure before I got mine, I found that I could enjoy the sensations, but at the same time control my urge to ejaculate.

Without even realising it (or maybe she knew exactly what she doing), Maria had taught me how to both give and receive pressure simultaneously, while at the same time staying entirely present in the moment.

I pushed into her until my dick was fully embedded in her asshole. Little ripples of sensation passed right down my spine and travelled outwards across my body, like pulses of pure pleasure. I was close to having an out of body experience. It was so sensual, and intimate, and downright erotic. This was more than fucking to cum. This was fucking to fuck. It wasn't about the destination - it was about the journey. Everything was about the journey.

"Hold it there, Mikey," Maria said. "Hold it right there and tell me if you can feel this."

Suddenly, I felt something hard brush against my dick. I flinched, not expecting it. And then it pressed against my shaft again, pressed into it and ran a few inches along its length.

"Can you feel it?" Maria asked.

"What is it?"

"It's me," she said simply. "It's my hand. My knuckle rubbing against your dick. I'm touching you while you're inside me. Isn't that fucking incredible?"

I couldn't even speak. I nodded, even though she couldn't see me. Her knuckle continued moving up and down my shaft, pressing it through whatever membrane it was that separated her pussy from her ass. The tightness of her squeezing asshole, and then that heavenly pressing sensation.

"Tell me how it feels," she said. "I want to know. Please."

"It's the best thing I've ever felt in my life."

It was such a dumb statement, but it was also completely true. Every time her knuckle dragged along my dick it sent those same pulses of pressure and pleasure travelling along my dick and then up out through my entire body. I was feeling dizzy. I wasn't even fucking her. I was just inside her, and she was stroking my dick with the back of her hand, but it felt better than any pussy ever had before.

"How does it feel for you?" I managed to ask, remembering that this was as much about her as it was about me.

"Amazing," she purred. "I feel so wide, so stretched. I feel like another fraction of an inch inside me and I might split in two entirely. I feel like I'm on the verge of being torn in two, walking the line between absolute pleasure and absolute pain. I feel fuller than I have ever felt in my life, and I feel like any second now I'm going to orgasm so hard that I might pass out from the sheer fucking joy of it."

Yeah, Maria was much better with words than I was. There's no denying it.

"I want you to," I said. "I want you to cum right now, right like this. Tell me if there's anything I can do to make it better."

"Very, very gently, I want to start fucking my asshole. So gently. So slowly."

And that's what I did. Very aware of what she'd said about being close to being torn in two, I oh so slowly eased my dick back until just the head of it was still inside her, and then just as slowly pushed it back in.

Maria was making noises that I can only really describe as 'gurgling'. Like she was breathing out while also having a mouth full of saliva. This was accompanied by a soft, high pitched whining, sand then a deep, guttural grunt. Her body began to tremble so quickly it was more like a vibration. And her hand continued to touch my dick inside her body.

"Maria, I'm going to cum," I said, knowing that I couldn't fight it any longer.

She didn't answer. Didn't say a word. Just kept shaking and vibrating and making those strange noises. I knew she was in the middle of an orgasm, but I didn't realise it was one so deep that her body was the only part of her that was still in the room.

I came.

I couldn't fight it any longer.

I waited until my dick was as far up her ass as I could get it, and then I came.

It was strange in lots of ways, that orgasm. Yes, it was more powerful than any I'd had before it. And yes, it seemed to go on and on and on and on for an eternity. But, that wasn't the strangest part. The really weird bit was that in the past, whenever I'd cum in a girl, it had happened when I was driving in and out of her pussy as hard and fast as I could, but there, with Maria, my cock was hardly moving at all.

I learned that day that friction was a nice feeling, and it would definitely get you off, but if you wanted the real quality orgasms, you needed to get right inside someone's head, and let them get equally as deep inside yours.

As I shot into her asshole, I felt Maria pull her hand out of herself, and while I was still cumming she fell forwards onto the bed, my dick popped out of her, and the last of my spurts shot onto her ass and her back.

I fell forwards with her, landing on top of her, lacking the physical awareness to stop my momentum.

And we lay there, just breathing, for a solid five minutes. Finally it was Maria who broke the silence.

"Fuck," she said.

"Fuck," I agreed.

There really wasn't anything else to add.

That was the day my eyes were opened.