I’m a 38 year old female and My partner of 5 years is Male, 45 years old and suffers from ED , low testosterone which leaves him with no sexual desire what so ever .

So I get that he has these problems , I never degrade him or make him feel less or a man at all , I treat him as if he has no problems at all etc.

The thing I don’t get tho is why can’t he at least pretend to be sexually attracted to me and push himself to at least show me some kind of physically effection etc ? I get maybe one quick kiss a night at bedtime and that’s only cuz I’m always the one to lead the kiss , if I left it up to him he’d forget to kiss me good night n pass out .

He never cuddles me , wraps his arms around me etc . I get maybe 5-8 mins of touch / affection a week and that’s only cuz I ask him for sex once a week ..

Are all men with these issues this way with there woman? And if so how do u fix something like that ..how do u get your partner to show you that type of affection when he isn’t into it ???

I mean if u love ur partner then you’d at least pretend ur sexually attracted to her and be affectionate, just to make her happy etc. Right? Why does my guy use ED, low sex drive and low T as an excuse for his lack of affection etc towards me?

Help? Advice plz :(