Yesterday I failed to get hard for sex. I made an appointment with a urologist and luckily there was a same day opening.

For background I’m 36. This had been going on since October last year. I couldn’t get hard and this fucked me up mentally. I made want to avoid sex to avoid embarrassing myself and getting hurt again. When I have been intimate it’s been with weak erections and premature ejaculation.

So I explained to the urologist. He prescribed 50mg sildenafil pills. He said I could cut them in half to stretch them out, and usually it gives a guy enough confidence to stop needing them. He also said PE and ED are often linked. He’s also going to do physical tests and bloodwork to check my hormones and that nothing is physically wrong.

I strongly suspect this is psychological. I’m trying to get out of my head. My wife and I are also going to try sensate focus exercises.

I’ve also curtailed porn use, but sometimes a NSFW spam slips by the filters. I’ve also reduced masturbation, however I’ve read things about pornfree masturbation possible helping sexual dysfunctions so I don’t know what to think there.