Alright, I know what the title says, but I have an explanation. About a year ago, sex with my ex (girlfriend at the time, we were together for 6 years) became a bit difficult. She'd be all excited for sex only when she was in the mood, which was at least once a week, but started getting annoyed by every little thing. Like if my bed made noise, if I breathed too hard, if she was too warm, if I came too fast, if I wanted to put on a condom and she didn't want me to. Alot of sex is communication, but whenever she'd communicate with me she just used to look visibly annoyed and then not want to have sex again. It got to the point where she used to demand that I make her orgasm when we had sex, cause if I didn't she would make me feel bad about it until I did, thus cue the performance anxiety. And it's not to say I didn't, she came 50% of the time and I tried so much to last as long as I could. So this started affecting me mentally, to the point where I had to focus really hard to keep an erection, and in the last few months it got really difficult for me to stay up, probably 50% of the time now. We're broken up about a month now, for many many other reasons, but I'm just scared this happens again/in the future. I get normal morning wood etc. And I've been trying to stop porn, which is going alright, and I've only really gone back to it because I wanted to see if I could stay up (I know this isn't good either) does anyone have any advice? I know this is really messed up.