I’ve been feeling very hopeless these past few months and I’m wondering if anyone has had a similar experience and gotten through it successfully.

I’m dating an INTP and have been for over 2yrs now. He is the most attentive and loving person I’ve met. Though we’ve had our fair share of traumatic fights, he’s always been apologetic and willing to try and be better.

However, the extreme fights aside, discussions that come up on the daily scale are so difficult to get through a lot of the time. I don’t know what exactly it is… but something about how we communicate and prioritize makes it incredibly difficult to plainly talk about something.

To me it seems like he’s making everything personal… I make a judgement about something and he takes it as me not giving his opinion (aka him bringing up the potential small chance of another conclusion being the case) a chance. As ENTJs, making judgements based on the current information is our best skill, so it feels pretty bad for that to be criticized.

It feels quite overwhelming at times because of the additional inherent difference in discussion styles. ENTJs have linear thought patterns which follow a train of logic to some conclusion. INTPs have an expanding thought pattern which considers all sides of an argument. As my bf talks, I cannot acknowledge every single different concept or idea as the sheer amount of different ideas taking place is more than I will ever comprehend. Thus he ends up feeling unheard and unacknowledged.

It’s frustrating because all I want to be able to do is have conversations with him without it dissolving into either personal defense or an overload of explanation I can’t easily follow. Will this ever come to be?