Names: My Wife:MW(26F) Me(28M) Entitled Father:EF Entitled Mother:EM Entitled Parents:EP

So over the last couple days my wife (26F) has been in a pretty big argument with her parents.

MW suffered years upon years of verbal and emotional abuse at their hands, some of which I've even had to see first hand. EP are both very quick to anger with an explosive temper and I've never seen them side with anyone other than each other in an argument. Even against their own children. Honestly two of the most irrational people I've ever met.

This current situation started about a month ago, MW is in a Facebook group for daughters of abusive mothers. It's one of her only safe places to vent about EM and find people who can relate and help her feel validated. Well, one day MW thought she had locked her phone and she put it away, but it wasn't locked and she accidentally sent a link to EM that lead to a post in said Facebook group. It was private, so EM couldn't actually see the post and MW tried explaining it was accidental and she didn't know what it was. But EM decided to then join the group and she went and read MW's posts behind her back.

After the accidental link, EP suddenly got very distant (or more than they already usually were) but MW had no explanation of why. Until yesterday, when she finally got a message from EF explaining that "He couldn't just ignore this anymore" and that she "really hurt EM" by sending that link.

MW ended up having about a 5 1/2 hour conversation with EP via text at first and then phone call, going over the traumas MW has (yes, she is in therapy) and the things EP did that caused those traumas. And MW was calm and as nice as one can be in this situation, but EF's whole focus was the ways that MW also hurt EM. Like him being convinced MW sent the link EM on purpose, because "There's so many steps to sending a group invite". As stated earlier, it was a link to a post in the group which was private to non-group members, not an invite. Which, to me, personally sounds like EM is lying about the situation and he EF is choosing to believe EM's version of the story. Very in character for him.

MW's conversation with EF went mostly calm, she even thought a little progress was made. But then the phone call with EM started with MW apologizing for hurting EM because she honestly never meant to, they talked about what issues MW had with the way EM treated her growing up, which started fine but MW could tell EM was getting more and more irritated. EM eventually started melting down and crying and screaming at MW for pointing out her issues. Eventually angrily telling MW that she "Can't talk anymore right now" and hanging up.

After a bit more arguing with EP today, with about the same outcome, MW decided to reduce contact with them. To which EF responded by telling MW that "He's been so stressed about all of this that he almost had a heart attack" and how EM has been "Feeling suicidal about all of this".

MW removed EP both on Facebook, not blocked, just off the friends list. MW sent one last message to EF saying she's going no contact with EP unless it's something involving our children (as in if they actually show enough interest to ask for pictures or updates) with a hard limit on no phone calls because she doesn't want to make the kids miss EP more..

MW now feels like she was in the wrong for doing this, I have of course tried telling her she isn't, but EP have her so convinced this is her fault in some way.

P.S. I have her permission to post this, she wants opinions from people with experience in similar situations. She just doesn't feel like she has the capacity to post it herself right now.