This is more entitled grandparents, but I don't know where else to put this. For some context, my maternal grandfather who I've been estranged from for a while now passed away last month. I refused to attend the funeral because I didn't feel comfortable being around that side of my family since they were always cruel to my siblings and I. Well yesterday I got a call from my grandmother about inheritance. In all seriousness I had zero expectation on that front since my grandfather didn't exactly like me. However he apparently did leave me something in his will, though I'll never be able to collect it. He set a certain clause (I don't think what it's called) for me to be allowed to receive it. The conversation went as followed. GM= Grandmother, Me=me

GM: I'm sorry you couldn't make the funeral OP.

Me: I didn't go because you told me I couldn't.

GM: No, I said your friend couldn't.

Me: He's my husband, I'm not doing this again with you.

GM: Fine, fine. Anyways, I wanted to talk to you about your inheritance.

Me: Inheritance? Grandfather hated me, what the hell would he leave me?

GM: I'm not sure, the attorney said it was meant for your eyes only by his wishes.

Me: Okay?

GM: However, there are a couple things you're required to do before you receive it.

Me: Which would be?

GM: You have to divorce your husband and marry a woman, approved by me of course. I already know a lovely girl that would be willing.

Me: What? That's the dumbest thing I've ever heard. Absolutely not.

GM: But you have to, otherwise you can't have your inheritance.

Me: I don't care. I never wanted anything from that man. You can keep the stupid inheritance, I don't want it and I don't want to talk to you anymore.

GM: Oh stop being dramatic, you're just like your mother.

I hung up and haven't heard anything since. I don't know if what she said was true, but I don't care. Even if I had been able to claim the inheritance I wouldn't have. I talked to my mom today and she told me she got an angry call from Grandmother about me being unreasonable and disrespectful. She fully supported me telling my grandmother no. My siblings have also said they received similar calls about inheritance and also refused. We plan to all finally fully cut contact with that side of the family, and honestly we should have sooner.

Edit: I was not expecting to update THIS soon, but when you guys mentioned me having to divorce to get my inheritance wasn't enforceable, I thought of something. I just got off the phone with one of my cousins that I'm mildly on okay terms with. They told me that grandfather did leave me something. A letter and a small box, but only wanted me to see what was in them and apparently grandmother didn't like that. There was no divorce and marriage clause at all, grandmother made it up. I'm not that surprised to be honest. She's been known to manipulate to try and get her way. The attorney is holding onto the box and letter for me. I guess grandmother wanted to take to "mail directly to him" but the attorney said I had to pick it up in person. I'm going back to Vermont this weekend to get it. I'll update again when I find out what it is.

Edit 2: Hey everyone, wow. This got a lot more attention than I was excepting. Well, you'll all be happy to know that I just got back from the family attorney and received my letter and box. I'm not going to show pictures because I don't want one of my less kind relatives to see this somehow and make a fuss. Anyways, thank you all so much or the kind and...colorful words. Now, I know you're all curious about the contents of these items. Well, I'm happy to say that...my grandfather didn't dislike me as much as I thought he did.

The letter was indeed an apology for the way he treated me before. That, while yes he doesn't agree with the lifestyle I lead (as in being gay) he wished he had held his tongue. He regretted letting his personal views drive me away and that even if he didn't love how I love, he'd always love me. As for the box, it was a pair of cufflinks, which is why the box was so small. I know these cufflinks, grandfather only ever wore them for special events. Grandchild baptism, first communion, weddings, funerals, etc. I had assumed he'd been buried with them, but apparently not. Sadly no money, my cousins got that. But...this is a kind of closure I never expected to get, and I'm really happy.

Grandmother has been blowing up my phone since I got back asking what the letter said and what was in the box. I've decided not to tell her, she doesn't deserve to know, especially after what she tried to do. She really didn't like being called out on her lie. It basically boiled down to, "was worth a shot at least." Yeah, she's not my favorite relative. This turned out different than I was excepting, but in a good way. I hope you all weren't too disappointed by the lack of some big reveal.

Thanks again for the kind words, bye now.