I am re-posting as original post was deleted.

Bare with me here as its my first time talking about it let alone posting on here. There is a lot of background, feel free to skip around.

So this started way back when I first graduated from high school. I had just gotten a VERY good paying job doing construction (Made me feel like I was 90 by the time I was done, lol...but again, paid very well). My mom and I had agreed that since I was still living at home and was making good money I'd pay $800/month for food and rent (she originally asked for $400 but I thought this was too little). I thought this was more than fair as she would also be helping me manage my money as I'd be working during the bank hours and was worried about spending everything I was making instead of saving for collage so I had no cards or checks for the account. In short, if I needed money for food I'd have to talk to her to get it. I thought everything was great. A year passes, everything is going great but the contract the company had was ending and they were therefore going to leave the state and laid me off. I figured this was perfect cause I figured I had saved over $35k by now and was now able to pay for collage. On my way home I called my mom to let her know and to make sure I had how much I thought I had saved up in the account. She tried telling me it was too soon and I should ask them for another job or something or start job hunting or just take a few months off...but I said I needed to get on with collage as putting off would do nothing to help me out. Thinking back, she was definitely stalling before I found out what she had been doing with my money.

The next day I said we should go to the bank to see the funds so we could hash out a budget for collage. She made up some excuse about why we shouldn't do it yet and I thought nothing of it. Later that same day I decided to go check on it myself since I now had the day to myself and didn't know what else to do. When they told me I was floored...IT WAS $10 BALANCE!!!! I couldn't believe it. I automatically thought I had overspent. I mean there where several times, when I was having a rough week or whatever usually, I'd ask for more than usual. There were also a few times she said spending the $20 a week on myself was too much. Surely I just over estimated how much I had earned/spent...I asked for the years worth of transactions so I could find out where I went wrong. After a week or so of going over it I realized she not only had gotten a card (Something we mutually agreed not to do to prevent confusion) but she had spent over $35k dollars on going to the theater and new dresses and things of that nature. I figured it was a honest mistake and brought it too her.

I said "its fine, we can fix it. We just need to come up with a plan. I'll get another job and I'll save even more this time. We just need to figure out how you can pay me back..." turns out, this was the wrong thing to say.

She blows up at me."what do you mean pay you back! I didn't take that money. You must have spent it and forgot."

I explain to her that one of the reasons she was in charge of the account was that I worked during banking hours and had no way to access the funds otherwise. I then said that maybe the bank made an error and we should talk to them.

But, she didn't hear me "I can't believe you think I stole from you! Even if I did take the money, you owe me for the years I raised you!" While I appreciate her sacrifice and what she has done for me, I don't think I should have to pay her instead of going to collage but I keep this to myself as the conversation is too heated as it is (I'm a pacifist by nature and had never really confronted my parents on ANYTHING up till this point in my life). I figure just remain silent, like I always do when she gets like this. She ended up kicking me out and putting all my stuff (only two boxes) on the front lawn and threatening to call the cops if I wasn't gone in 30 mins. I ended up having a good friend of mine show up in 15 mins and they helped me find an apartment within about an hour and even covered the deposit and first months rent while I got the funds to pay him back. Gotta give props to my amazing friends in the end, right!

Anyway, I can laugh about how naive I was to not check in and give somebody complete control of my finances like that now that I'm 30. I am grateful for the experience as its made me much better with money and able to stand up for myself as this was my first real conflict with my mom that I couldn't just run off and let her have her way. If you think this was the first or last of such stories with my mom, no it is not...its just the first one to come to mind.

Oh, and no, she still has not paid me back and still says that I owed her that money (she finally did own up to taking it only this last week, as she puts it, "with my permission")

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Before I get any comments about turning her in/pressing charges or whatever...she still is my mom. Losing out on $30k vs turning your own mom in...I think I took the lesser of the two hits. I can always make more money, but I can't make a new mom (as much as I wish I could sometimes, lol).

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Edit: This was over 12 years ago, so for all those that say to call the cops on her...kinda too late. Also, I didn't since I still had siblings living at home that were very well taken care of by her and relied very much on her. She only was this way to me out of my family, hence why I determined the best choice was to just take the hit. Besides, I got my revenge another time...maybe I'll post about it later!

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Edit2: I did end up going to collage basically right away. Got scholarships and grants to pay for it and ended up not needing the money, so it ended up fine. I also learned a lot from the experience that helped me secure positions and raises in work that I otherwise would missed out on. The benefits far outweighed the 35k in the end...not that I'm glad I had to go through it, just saying...even the worst things in life can get you the best things in life.

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Edit 3: The long awaited continuation/Revenge story: https://www.reddit.com/r/entitledparents/comments/b9qn5u/you_owe_me_even_more/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x