I keep finding myself lonely and never able to keep ppl for more than 2 years at best. My friendships with women only last like 2 years max and with men it all fizzles out and dies out and they eventually stop talking to me especially when they get a girlfriend. I also feel like with men (I am a man 22 years old) I never am able to connect with them on a non superficial level and I never feel like I am integrated into their group as one of the guys. With girls they use me as a trauma dumpster to just pour their trauma on me and when they’re done with me or I finally muster the courage to speak up for myself about how I don’t appreciate being undervalued or used to trauma dump and discard, they still discard me as I am no longer useful for them anymore.

I don’t want this to continue being my life story with human beings. I am progressively not liking people and I don’t think this will lead to much good for me in the long run.

Any advice ?