I’d always thought about what would happen if I did lose my gf/fiancee to this. We were together 10 years, recently engaged in the Mediterranean.

I’d asked for years isf she wanted to cuck me while she traveled for work, always a strong no.

About 8-12 months ago she got hit in at a restaurant during lunch break at work.

She told me, I said to go out with him. They have several dates. I set up some more with other on Reddit nothing was as good as that guy.

Cut to this a couple days ago, we go out of town, have a night out, got back to the hotel. I broke a cardinal rule and went through her phone.

I see she’s been text someone, and deleted some 12K texts. Scroll through them, it’s the guy I got into an argument with at her coworkers after work happyhour.

Turns out they’d been sleeping together for 8-10 months with and without condom, his place and our place. I never knew and she invited me to the event during their time of hooking up and made me the fool.

Am I the bad guy considering I opened the relationship to cuckolding with the pretext of open communication, honesty, no friends or coworkers and she withheld this from me or am I not entitled to have serious issues with the lack of disclosure that she’d been sleeping with a coworker for about a year, raw, in my bed??