After 16 years in a emotionally, very, and sometimes. Physically abusive marriage, I am planning my exit... I am finally ready. Lots of details there for another post.

I'm the male half by the way. Never raised a finger to her. Only name I have ever called her was "hypocrit." But the Trauma bond cycle won't break. She lies. She tells me what I want to here. She love bombs until I get comfortable again. And the cycle renews.

She has hit me. She has threatened me with objects. She has lied to the cops to try and get me arrested. She has threatened suicide...even made an attempt once. Although I'm still not sure if that was real.

I'm terrified of how far she will go to stop be from leaving. I just need to pack my clothes, a computer, and a game system.. I don't care about anything else. No kids, thank God.

The problem is.... She is ALWAYS home. She works from home. Although she has friends, she almost never goes out with them without me. Going out without me is a, maybe once in 3 or 4 month event.

How do I plan an exit when I can't be home alone? When she never leaves?