We have been friends since roommates in college. Our relationship has been off all year. She never agreed with the steps I made to change for the better. She sided with my family as I confronted them about the ways our dis-functionality has impacted me. I was “villianising them” when I chose speaking out a month after my grandma passsed, I was “selfish” for not bending over backwards for my sister for her wedding, I’ve changed “not for the better” and apparently this is all due to my bf influencing me. Like what?! This started way before he and I were even talking. She and my family just want a scapegoat, they can’t accept they are the ones who are the issue and I chose to change things for myself. She loves to hate my bf and when I point out the good he does all of a sudden I “have him on a pedestal” - and apparently I can ask “anyone of my family bc they were concerned enough to reach out to her.” But she wouldn’t tell me who or when. Fuck them all - they have been giving me the silent treatment for months, probably expecting me to come groveling back. And I’m not gonna lie, it’s been hard not to but I know I’m better for it. I’m finally taking care of me first.