I'm not sure what to think

Not sure if this is the place to put this.

I went to a counselling session at the women's interval home and I for the longest time didn't know if it was abuse or not. Well everything she outlined indicates it was emotional abuse for 16 years of my life. And when I called my father to tell him my plan to leave he basically told me that maybe I'm the issue and I'm never happy and the only constant in my life has been my partner and that if I leave I'm just gonna find out it was me.

I know I'm not perfect but is it me? Am I actually the issue ? Now idk if leaving is the right idea and if I do, the most important person in my life isn't in my corner and I have zero support system here. I'm so lost. Everything hurts and I have no idea what to do.

The other thing is idk how to leave, my phone is in his name and I can't just leave without saying anything. Idk how to face him. What do I do? I'm a mess.