I've been a fan of this kink from a few different angles for quite a while now, I just wanted to talk about a different perspective on this kink then the ones we see on here.

So for context. I'm a Trans Woman. I don't really bother with specific labels anymore but I've gone between lesbian/bisexual in the past, but I mostly lean fem, and usually other trans woman when it comes to romance/intimacy (though purely based on sexual attraction it's a good bit more open). Sometimes I also like to engage with misgendering / transphobia as kinks, not always but if that can be understood in any sub I'm sure it's here.

I have a fantasy of meeting a proud "gold star" lesbian, one who I find attractive but the more I get to know them it's really clear they see me as a man, but are none the less still attracted, hating themselves for it. The way it would end is some really passionate hate sex, them disgusted with themselves, but getting off on saying how they're "straight" now or sexualizing me for my dick, and in turn my disgust/self hatred about the situation just fuels the aggression as I dominate them.

It interacts with some other kinks tbh, the degradation of knowing I'm so desperate that I'll put up with that. Would be very interested to hear what people thing, especially other cis/trans women but anyone is welcome to comment.