Hi everyone 👋 so my group has been running Drakkenheim for about half a year now, and my brother plays in my game with us. He theory crafted a half elf paladin/rogue that was loosely tied to the Silver Order. The character is also a Von Kessel bastard, so there's potential for his character to take the throne of Westemar. Personal quest is to slay a demon that stole her identity and memories from her.

The first issue arose in pre-session 0. Other players fleshed out their characters already, and to summarize they were: a rogue wizard interested in Delerium, a cleric to the Falling Fire, and a contamination druid that saw what was happening in Drakkenheim as "True Nature". There were definitely signs early on, but my brother decided he still wanted to play this character, and I'm of the mind that it's not my job to make the party's decisions for them, so the campaign starts pretty strong.

Fast forward some sessions, and the party keeps flitting between the Silver Order and the Falling Fire. My brother is adamantly against the Falling Fire (started as an Oath of Vengeance paladin, and saw Delerium as "evil"), so whenever the party wanted to pursue falling fire stuff or talk to Lucretia, he just resolved to be a bodyguard and not interact except to occasionally insult Lucretia.

This culminated into an entire moment where two party members, one of which is essentially his character's adopted sister, takes the sacrament. He decides this breaks his oath because he stood idly by while "evil" was allowed to ensue. The next session he decides to swear an Oath of the Crown, but otherwise stays resolute in his dislike for the falling fire.

At this point, Lucretia has: • let the party keep the Scepter of St. Virtruvio • Led them to Lenore • Led my brother to his personal quest, which he hasn't actively pursued all campaign

She has been nothing but helpful to the party all campaign, but my brother is resolute that "Her character flaw is that she doesn't waver with her beliefs". So we're in the late game now, and the party has ended up working with the Queen's Men because she can give the party what they want, but my brother is mad because "the party isn't letting my character do what she wants to do", but really I believe he's just bummed the party isn't going Silver Order and at this point it's actively an uphill battle for that outcome to occur. Like I'm sorry he's not having a good time, but these problems, in my eyes, are literally self inflicted.

Long rant, sorry, just wanted to vent here. Maybe some of you guys can provide some insight/advice on the situation. We're almost done, so my intention is to see the campaign through because everyone else at the table is enjoying themselves, but my brother keeps saying "tabletops are being ruined for me" and I don't take that comment lightly.

P.S. It was very clear from the getgo that the party didn't look Silver Order friendly, so this was a very avoidable outcome and I don't understand why he's making his character so resilient to change