I found out by accident over a year ago (when going through my medical files given to me when my family doctor retired). My mom passed away a couple years ago - I would've felt the least amount of anxiety asking her about it but of course that isn't an option. Obviously my dad must know, right?

I have no idea if any of my aunts (including her closest long time friend that we refer to as an aunt) or uncles know. I don't want to open this can of worms on my possibly unsuspecting family. I've only told my sister (who was with my when I made the discovery) and a few friends.

I've figured out who my biological dad is thanks to Ancestry DNA & some online detective work but the letter I've wrote to him continues to sit unsent in my notes app. I don't have high expectations nor am I overly looking for any sort of relationship with him but I can't convince myself to message him.

Any advice would be appreciated and I'm open to chatting with others who are donor conceived!