I’ve been in this lifestyle for quite a few years now, and I can’t help but notice a shift. It seems like the value of clear and open communication is fading, especially from submissives. This strikes me as incredibly strange, considering communication is fundamental not only for maintaining a healthy dynamic but also for creating fulfilling, interesting scenes. Somehow, though, every submissive I encounter seems to struggle in this area. They all agree that communication is important, yet often they can’t or don’t express themselves openly.

This dynamic can be incredibly frustrating, as I often feel I’m left to guess what they’re thinking or feeling—almost as if I’m expected to be a mind reader. The truth is, this approach can become exhausting. Sharing fantasies or debriefing after a session shouldn’t be something to shy away from; in fact, it’s essential for understanding each person’s unique desires and responses.

So, I’m curious: do you notice this as well, and if so, how do you manage it? Do you have any strategies for encouraging more openness and ensuring both sides feel comfortable sharing?