A bit of a story to tell because frankly I'm extremely happy and I just have to tell someone about what has happened. For some context, my high school sweetheart and I got married last year after being together for 5 years. We were both each others first. We started our dom/sub relationship about 5 months ago now, and we've loved every bit of it so far.

Last night, she had said that she kinda wanted to have a sweet session, but she was under the mindset that D/S was not possible for that kind of session, as if I had to be mean when I was my dom self. I convinced her to let me prove her wrong by promising that I would pamper her and praise her like crazy. I did just that and was an extremely gentle and loving dom for the occasion. I like being rough and strict, but I enjoyed this too. I enjoy pretty much anything that makes us feel like she belongs to me. Long story, she entered subspace for the first time, and I wonder if I entered domspace (i dont know as much about it so I'm not sure). I knew she was in subspace when she literally couldn't stop herself from giving me oral and constantly moaning. She enjoyed it so much more than she ever has before, and it allowed her to completely ignore her gag reflex and do a VERY good job. She confirmed afterward that she completely lost track of time and all that was in her head was the enjoyment of serving me.

How good a job she did was already nice enough, but what she told me legitimately almost made me cry, and I'm not ashamed to admit that. We've loved each other for 6 years, and this dynamic has made us more attracted to each other legitimately made us feel closer to each other. Last night, however, was different. Up till this point, the dynamic has strictly been for sexual satisfaction, but last night it felt... deeper. It felt more like we were both fully accepting this part of ourselves and loving each other for it. What she said to me that got to me so much was that up till this point she had enjoyed it and entered the character, but last night, she fully just let go and she said "I already loved you, but tonight I think I fell in love with my Dom" and I fell apart. I felt the same about her. It's like we finally fully accepted each other for 100% of what we enjoy. After seeing how much dominating her makes me want to care for her and treat her, it's like it unlocked something in her. Now I understand why so many people like 24/7 (which I still dont think I want, but nothing against it). Its more than sexual, now. I cant explain it more than that.

Have other doms or subs experienced this epiphany? Does what I said make sense? I'd love to hear your thoughts