Hi, complete newbie here in a long term relationship. I’ve read and discussed the New Topping and New Bottoming books with my partner. I’ve been reading threads here for a couple months. We’re both new and she’s seeing a dom in our ENM open marriage. We learn a good deal from him and she’s been getting some good ideas of things she likes and wants to try.

She likes: being held down, light choking, restrained with hands, getting eaten, some vibrator play, light biting, spanking, and being told what to do. She has a praise kink (“good girl”) and being encouraged to cum (“you’re almost there”, “great job”).

I like: eating, having her ride my face, physically challenging but rewarding positions with grabbing and thrusting, sensory deprivation, breath play on me, being grabbed or squeezed hard, getting slapped, being choked (safely).

Open call for ideas! I just want to have a richer set of things to try or learn more about to grow in my abilities and our connection.

Positions to try? Dynamics that could be interesting? Phrases that could be fun? Books or articles to read? General comments or encouragement welcome! Say hi! I’d love to chat with anyone (here or DM) who is happy to share their experience at any level.

Thanks in advance, y’all, blessed to have this sub as a resource ❤️