30[m] natural soft dom but getting into the sadism side. But the situation I've come into is met a 20[f] sub little over 2 months ago. Honestly she is perfect and bringing out other sides of me that I usually keep hidden. The thing is from the get go she made it known she couldn't give commitment which I accepted cause I was getting a divorce and completely restarting my life. She is afraid of hurting me or getting hurt. Today she told me about two other guys in her life before me. One being out of state that could help her achieve her life goals and a semi sexual dom/sub dynamic. The other being a local that has been there for her for stuff and every know and then goes and see him and do what he wants cause she wants to make him feel good. Now the thing is she doesn't want to lose me and I don't want to lose her. I know she can't give me everything and she feels bad about that but I tell her it's fine. The mental fight is what if she does go to one of the other guys. It's not that she will hurt me but on the other hand I want to be protective. I would let her come right to me afterwards and I know that. But how do I keep myself from slipping into a mindset that I'm not enough or that she will just end up leaving me if I tell her how I feel or let my walls down.