I (44M) an fairly new to the lifestyle. I've been slowly exploring and reading for about 3 years now. I've had two long distance relationships that were ok, I felt like they were kind of lacking and I'm trying to figure out how to do better. Both subs helped me try to identify where I fit and both came up with pleasure and daddy Dom. I did some reading and feel like both fit me.

My current issue is I'm possibly entering a new relationship with someone that is used to more aggression. This one will be closer to me so we will be able to interact in person. I've been learning to deliver but would like to do better. It feels odd that she has chosen me over her other options. I've made it very clear, I am different and will continue to be different.

My question is how do I give her what she craves while still being who I am? Is there a way to balance it?