Hi, I (M61) have been with my partner (F42) for 18 months. She is an experienced Sub who has also been a Dom. I have had very little RL experience within the lifestyle, having had a few online subs and my last partner claimed to be submissive but that only stretched to the bedroom where she let me do anything to her which got pretty boring pretty quickly. Apart from that relationship, all my past RL relationships have been vanilla. I have always had the desire to Dom but I am also a pleaser, I go out of my way to help people and do things for them. This has made my life as a Dom difficult to the point that I get so wrapped up in doing everything, I don't focus on my partner. She feels we are not compatible but I know I have it in me to be the Dom she desires/wants/needs, I just need to find a way to forget my nature and focus on us. If anyone can help in anyway, I would be really grateful