Trigger Warning: Violence So I was in an over 4 year relationship but unfortunately we ended because he got drunk one night and became violent. He ended up punching me multiple times. I grew up pretty privileged and am white so I have always trusted police. He is black and grew up not trusting the law so much. Even though we are Canadian he sees the difference between how he is treated in his security uniform and when he's in plain clothes. To me it was simple, you hit someone it's criminal. You never tolerate being hit. If you get hit you leave. So that's what I did. I left and called the police. I had him charged but because this was his first offense the way our legal system worked out he doesn't have a criminal record now either. Anyways, after the no contact order was up I reached out to him. It was like nothing was different. We fell right back into the familiarity of being a couple and talking all the time. I told my therapist this and she said I need to stop talking to him. That he hit me so he should never get another chance to be with me or even be in my life. We were friends for almost 9 years before we got together. That's a long time to just throw away. I'm basically wondering what I should do. I really don't want to cut him out because I love him and he's become my best friend for so many years. But is my therapist right? Does anyone feel like this is a pattern of abuse or could the mandated therapy he had have helped him enough to not do it again. I know my therapist is trying to look out for my best interest but she doesn't know what's in my heart