Hello, I’m writing on behalf of a close relative who’ll be breaking up with her boyfriend next week. I’d appreciate any advice on how to mitigate risk of violence against her or the families she’ll be staying with shortly after the breakup. My relative (21F) has been dating this (22M) for 5 years. From my perspective, they are both immature for their age and not not tracking well toward “adulting” / being responsible self sufficient people. I’d characterize their relationship as toxic and co-dependent. The girl’s single mom (F56) lives in different state and financially supports her (F21) daughter. The mom has also supported her daughter in going to counseling which has led to recommendation that she breakup with BF or a variety of reasons….his controlling behavior being top reason. I don’t know the BF very well but have found him to be controlling, quick to shift from sweet to mean, quiet/shy/nervous/insecure. He also doesn’t have much going for him other than his cute/naive GF. They currently live together but GF has plan to breakup with BF next week. As a third party I’m concerned this boy will fly off the handle. He’s never been physical with her but has threatened to kill himself and their pet. Should she be getting a restraining order in place? Should GF’s mom reach out to BF’s mom to get in front of this? Should GF stay at a hotel or with family friend? I just learned from my wife that GF’s mom asked if her daughter could stay with us. The BF knows where we live and frankly I don’t feel that’s safe to me or my family. Please ask any questions and thanks in advance for your advice.